TTC after miscarriage

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Hi everyone,

I had a miscarriage early on in my pregnancy in February and since moving to Dubai from March my husband and I are having trouble conceiving. I had an ultrasound in Feb where no fetus was detected as it was too early on. However since being here I have had multiple tests, and also a pelvic MRI scan where the Gynae has found that my ovaries are polycystic. Has anyone else been through this? I’m finding it so difficult seeing so many friends and family falling pregnant, or recently just had a baby. Whilst I’m obviously happy for them, I am going through internal turmoil and I don’t know what to do.

I’m so sorry to read you’re having this trouble! Feb/March isn’t a very long time and you’ve done all the pro-active things getting the tests.

I had two losses last year and it feels like everyone else gets pregnant again right away (or that everyone around you can have babies with 0 issues, by accident etc!).

Give yourself the grace to feel upset and frustrated, but also trust that your body is working for you and with you and that even when you can’t see it, it is working. Sending you all the good vibes and hope that these feelings will soon be a distant memory for you!

Thank you so much for your kind words. I’m so sorry to hear that you had two losses last year, and hope you’re doing okay?

My thoughts are with you, and sending you all the love and support ♥️ @chronicovershare

I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. I fell pregnant v quickly when we decided to have a baby in mid 2021. It ended in a miscarriage at 8 weeks and it was awful. My two best friends were also pregnant at the same time so it was really hard to escape from it. I became quite depressed if I’m honest and was desperate to fall pregnant again. It took 10 months after my MC to fall pregnant and I began to feel like my body was failing me. I think the stress did contribute to not getting pregnant so as easy as this is for me to say, try to do everything you can to relax and not over think. Personally, the ovulation sticks just put more pressure on us so I wouldn’t use those again unless it had been 8 months or so with no success. It’s perfectly possible to get pregnant with PCOS so try not to stress. Give yourself 6 months and then seek further advice.

From a friends POV, are you comfortable enough to speak to them about it? I was honest with my closest friends and said that I was so happy and over the moon for them but that I was going through a difficult time and if I didn’t ask or want to know about their baby/pregnancy not to be offended. Thankfully they were v understanding and one friend especially really respected that and never rammed anything baby related at me. She actually said to me not that long ago that she knew one day I’d have my baby and she didn’t want to ruin our friendship over what she knew was likely to be a short space of time. Perhaps have a chat with them?

The pregnancy after my MC resulted in the most wonderful little girl who is now 3 and a mini CEO in the making. You will have your beautiful baby one day! Sending you so much love. It’s so so tough xxxx

Honestly, it's hard - but I'm preaching to the choir here!

Every month can feel like an eternity when you don't get the result you want, but staying positive is the only way I think. Flossy28's story is lovely and really promising - I'm going to hold onto that!

With friends/other people having babies I FEEL you too. I have nightmares that people close to me who aren't even trying fall pregnant(!) I think we just have to believe it will happen for us at the right time, and remember that the result of that will be the baby that we wouldn't have without this journey, so they'll be all the more special ❤