Anyone managed to have tests done after "just" 2 m/c?

[ChocFudgeCake]

As I posted earlier, I'm having my 2nd m/c.

So there is a premature birth, my daughter died. Then 2 boys, then 2 m/c.
I find it very difficult to accept to try again just like that, without any tests. My friend doctor told me that the tests are very expensive so I should have them through the NHS, but it is going to be hard to convince my GP to refer me. So I was wondering what some of you have done.
I also think that the fact that I have these boys eliminates some health concerns, so I wouldn't need to have all tests. Cannot stop thinking...

My mother suggested that I should rest (as in "do not get pregnant") for the remaning of the year, the due date was in Dec, and the following year, then try again. She said that when she had 2 m/c a couple of doctors told her that: to wait 1 year more after the due date.

Is it nonsense?? Maybe she just wants me to stop getting pregnant now to avoid more pain.

I am sorry what you have been through. I had tests done privately after 2 miscarriages. They found a clotting problem however I went on to have four more miscarriages. I ended going to st. Mary's recurrent miscarriage clinic and saw the fab Raj rai is Prof. Regan's right hand man. He discovered that I do have have a clotting issue but not what my original consultant thought. He put me on 150mg aspirin and I am now 36 weeks pregnant. By the way I had my daughter with no m/c before then went onto to have six. In relation to waiting to try again Raj rai feels it doesn't make any differance it you wait. You can try again as soon as you feel ready. I know for me I had a real need to keep going and if I hadn't I wouldn't be 36 weeks pregnant now. But it did kind of put our lives on hold for nearly 3 years. Lesley Regan's book Miscarriage:what every women needs to know is very helpful. You can get it off amazon. Do what you feel is best. If you want to ask me anymore feel free. We haven't got lots of money but its the best money we ever spent. Raj Rai has
given us a chance which I don't think we would have had. Good Luckx

I'm sorry to hear this chocfudgecake.

Were the two miscarriages very similar? Or very different?

As for waiting before you try again - that's totally up to you. I have a friend who has had two m/cs and is trying acupuncture before trying to concieve again. I had two m/cs and then got pregnant again straight after the second one (so far successful pregnancy).

For some women, miscarriage does mean that there is an actual problem, it's just bad luck.

I think you really need to talk to an understanding doctor about your options.

I also meant to add: sometimes it's just bad luck, and doens't always mean that there is a serious problem.

I think sometimes tho it is just bad luck, im 3 months into pregnancy 8.
Ectopic, stillbirth, livebirht, 2 miscarriages, livebirth and another miscarriage. Sometimes there are just no answers and you have to keep going.

I'll second Lesley Regans book being worth a read

I have had a possible miscarriage, 2 confirmed miscarriages, premature daughter, trouble ttc and a mmc.

They wont let me have any tests untill we have another miscarriage

I got tests for clotting disorders due to a family history of APS (Hughes). This is following my first pregnancy, which although premature resulted in a healthy baby. Results were all clear. My sister was really upset as she had to 'wait' for 3 miscarriages before having the same tests (which confirmed APS). Different postcodes though. If you have any family history of clotting probs or any other signifiers eg autoimmune disorder, it may be worth shouting about. BTW my sister went on to carry 3 children full term on aspirin and heparin.

Ohh, I'm very sorry to hear everything all have been through. When I first lost my premature baby I felt I was alone in the world and little by little realised I had entered a "secret club", that many other women have gone through big suffering and still they look "normal", so you cannot tell. I don't know if it makes sense.

A friend of mine mentionned Dr Reagan and St Mary's. So that's my aim. But yesterday that I had to go to hospital due to m/c complications (as crudely narrated in other post), I was clearly told there is no way they will do any tests for me

In the meantime I will get a copy of the book Imopop and WorzselMummage recommend, thanks

I don't feel that I'll want to try again soon. DS2 is 2.8 years old, still little, or maybe I'm too shocked by yesterday's events...

Hi CFC,
I am possibly a rarity here as I go for my 1st referral hospital appt tomorrow (help!!) and I have only had 2 mc's. My difference though, is I am 43. That and the fact my Nigerian (and very family orientated) GP said he would refer me as I wasn't getting any younger
As imopop says, you can by-pass any rules if you go private.
Big Hugs.
Tx

I"m very sorry for you losses.

I was also seen after two miscarriages by a NHS specialist, but I have a diagnosis of PCOS which is linked to recurrent miscarriage. I was very lucky as I know this is unusual. I was given the full gammet of tests and fortunately everything came up clear. I went on to have DS without any complications (other than a lot of worry!).

It's always worth asking. I was very surprised when they agreed to see me.

Thanks very much, Bundless99 and Neolara. That's encouraging. I'll give it a go this week.