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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

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what to do with missed m/c, the pill or the other thing?

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ChocFudgeCake · 20/05/2008 22:34

I found out last week that I had a missed m/c -the second in 7 months
I was given 2 weeks to have the full m/c. But I'm bleeding lightly, I have the feeling I'm going to need the 'procedure' (I forgot what it's called D & C or something...).
I just read that there is a pill too. I think I would prefer to avoid the trauma of seeing everything coming out, so maybe the pill is not for me. Is there anything negative about the 'procedure'? I've read the medical stuff, but I would like to know if anyone has a bad experience with this (of course is bad, I mean something extra bad).
Thanks.

Ahh also, I'm very very sleepy and feel tired too often. Do you think that is a symptom of the m/c or is it just depression?

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ash6605 · 20/05/2008 22:40

Choc I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

I think you mean an ERPC (evacuation of retained products of conception-god I hate that term) Personally I have had a bad experience with an ERPC where not everything was removed and I got a terrible infection.
Having also had a natural m/c,I would 'rather' choose the natural method myself if it ever happened again.
Sorry no experience of the pill.

downbutnotout · 20/05/2008 22:41

Tmi warning - I have miscarried three times, had the ERPC the first time and let the second two happen naturally. I didn't see anything come out either time as in both cases I think it fell straight into the toilet without me seeing. I would actually have preferred to see some evidence of my pregnancies, but we are all different!

I prefer letting it happen naturally but I loathe hospitals and have not found it very painful, although the bleeding was very heavy the last time and did make me feel a bit faint, but I only needed a couple of days off work.

Again, we are all different - do what feels right for you. Get plenty of rest and look after yourself.

napa · 21/05/2008 10:13

I went for ERPC for mmc. Had it on 1st April, went in at 7.30, procedure at 9.30 and home by 12. No cramps, minimal bleeding and really glad I did it that way. Spent next week recovering at home and fortunately no problems. I'm not the most patient person in the world and would have gone nuts waiting for it to happen natually or tablet induced.
good luck with whatever you decide

GordontheGopher · 21/05/2008 10:16

I had an ERPC yesterday and feel absolutely fine. All pregnancy symptoms have gone. Hopefully I won't get any infections. I would highly recommend it - emotionally and physically.

cmotdibbler · 21/05/2008 10:19

I've had 3 mcs - two ERPC, one natural. I much preferred the ERPCs as I didn't like the waiting for stuff to come out, and as my first was a very missed mc, they said that it was unlikely to go on its own.

There isn't any right and wrong, but the ERPC can get that stage over and done with in a morning.

WorzselMummage · 21/05/2008 10:27

I have had the erpc twice and a d&c for other reasons once and they have all been fine witn little pain and light bleeding, i've had no lasting problems with any of them. I've also miscarried naturally once and found it a lot easier to deal physicially as it was comepltly painless ( v unusual apparently ) but much harder work emotionally.

My hosital do not offer the pills as apparently quite often a women who has taken them will have to have an eprc anyway.

Sorry your going though this

ash6605 · 21/05/2008 11:04

How are you feeling today choc?

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ChocFudgeCake · 23/05/2008 16:20

Thanks for all posts. Unfortunately things happened yesterday, before I could choose. I started to bleed very heavily in the morning. I semifainted in the shower and thanks God my husband heard me (and was still at home!) and dragged me out of the shower and put me on the floor, while trying to find numbers for the hospital. He was told to call an ambulance but it would have taken us to the nearest hospital, which I'm scared of. So we went by taxi. On arrival DH put me on a wheelchair and we were told to queue in A&E !! I couldn't even hold my head and was crying for the strong contractions. I should have had that ERPC thing the very fisrt day I had the scan.
The kind people in the queue just told DH to go first. Then the nurse who called me in was upset because I wouldn't stand up and walk to her room. So very reluctantly she allowed us to continue using the wheelchair!!
She insisted that I told her how much blood I had lost. I was just babbling "don't know, was in toilet". When DH tried to explain, she snapped that she needed to know how many pads. I gathered strenght to say that it was so much I couldn't even use pads and had been sitting in the toilet before trying to take a shower. She still was not happy.
They gave us a room and I was told to make a wee in the container and wear the hospital gown. DH helped me to undress and there was a big splash of tissue and blood. Horrible. I couldn't do a wee, but of course they forgot about that and also about the blood test they had mentionned. A Dr came to tell me that "all my signs were good" so I could go to the Gynae clinic to queue to have a scan!! and maybe if things were progressing well just go home
I cried even more when I realised that I had to wait in the queue. I was given some pills for the pain, but they didn't work. Really I have given birth without pain relief and it was the same pain, but I kept thinking "it's ridiculous because I'm not going to have a baby". By the time DH wheeled me to Gynae I was more of a mess. Fortunately we didn't wait long. The Dr was nice and quick. He offered to pull out things with something like a miniforceps. It was quite horrible, no anestesia of course, but as soon as he finished the contractions stopped. Still I couldn't hold my head but came back home and slept for hours and hours, soo please to be better. And thanks for reading all this!

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ash6605 · 23/05/2008 18:31

Oh Choc what an awful time you have had,I'm so so sorry.

I'm so that the hospital treat you in this way.

Emotionally and physically you are going through hell and I hope you are getting the support you need from people in RL but if not you know we are all here for you to vent.

Thinking of you and your DH x

missblythe · 23/05/2008 18:38

Oh, bless you, what an awful day!

Lots of love x

ash6605 · 24/05/2008 15:58

Hi choc how are you?

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ChocFudgeCake · 25/05/2008 15:58

Hello, thanks for being so supportive
I feel physically stronger and sometimes feel emotionally normal, but often I would like to avoid talking to people in case someone says something I don't want to hear like "Maybe it was a girl, some women just can't carry girls" -I have 2 boys- or "I thought this time you were being careul and looking after yourself" -meaning that first m/c was my fault because I was not careful??" ... I'm not that normal after all.
DH is doing almost all the childcare these days, so I am resting well (and not answering the phone). Thanks again

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ash6605 · 25/05/2008 17:07

I'm pleased to hear you are feeling a little better today,although we both know you will never forget it or 'get over it' as so many ignorant people expect you to.

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ChocFudgeCake · 26/05/2008 12:09

Thanks Ash. You are right

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sue10 · 26/05/2008 18:45

Hi CFC,
pleased to hear you are feeling a bit better, your experience sounds very similar to mine although i did actually choose to take the tablet, the contractions were extremly painful and i was offered pain relief of gas/air but i declined. Do take time to recover from this both physically and mentally. Sending you hugs.
sueXXX.

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