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My relationship with my partner has fell apart after loosing a baby

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Eckiem · 24/05/2025 17:31

unfortunately I miscarried A few months back, I was around 12 weeks…
My partners a lot older than me and has a grown up daughter that is around my age and during my miscarriage she’s gave our miscarriage no attention and told him that’s she’s pregnant and asked him to come to her baby scan saying it’s the only one she will have during her pregnancy so if he did come to that one he would get to see his grandchild…. When he went he could go in the scan or even talk to his daughter as all her friends where there and they went in the scan room with her …. She never invited him to another scan after even though she had a few as that was her first ….. I tried addressing this with my partner and he flips at me … I get upset about the baby I’m ruining him looking forward to his grandchild … I’ve tried to get over this I brought things for his grandchild they wasn’t good enough and they are just left at the back of my cupboard as when I try to gift them they just get left …
i don’t know if I’m wrong finding this hard or if I’m being selfish but I just feel like it would be nice to have been able to talk to my partner…

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Cerialkiller · 24/05/2025 17:37

I'm sorry for your loss op, but why are you with him? He's old enough to be your father and he doesn't seem to like you much?

It's possible he's grieving but it's not a good sign that he takes his moods out on you.

Excuse me if I'm wrong, but you sound young. There are better options out there, men without as many complications.

Toddlerteaplease · 24/05/2025 17:39

Your partner sounds awful. Get rid. Sorry for your loss.

Eckiem · 25/05/2025 16:57

Yeah me and his daughter have about 4/5 years apart and yeah your probably right he can act so nice and I look after his son who lives with us so it’s hard to tell him to leave as they haven’t got any where to go.
i feel like I’m the monster all the time it’s just draining sorry for going on I just have no one to talk to about it Thankyou for your help

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