Miscarriage advice 💔

[Waitingforthesunshine24]

Hi all,
I was 7+1 when I miscarried. This was on Tuesday and I have passed the pregnancy just a few clots etc coming out and period like bleeding.

I just feel I need some advice on what could of happened. I was spotting for a couple of days and went to EPU where they found the fetus etc and heartbeat. Everything looked normal they said there was no seen cause for bleeding. They were full of congratulations and told me not to worry. Following day bleeding got redder so I had another scan, fetus fine and dandy. 2 days later I realised I was properly miscarrying and the pregnancy came away.

I am struggling to get my head around after seeing a heartbeat this happened? I had a loss last May too but was much earlier. I have Graves Disease but well controlled and negative antibodies, I have a higher BMI but I was trying to sort out and had lost weight. I am 37 but know lots of women older than me who have had babies. I am wracking my brain for what my body could have done. I have a 5 year old.

Anyone else had the same? Did you go on to have a successful pregnancy or find a cause. Not sure it would be classed as recurrent loss but having had two now I don’t want a third

xx

had recurrent losses and unfortunately have ended up childless. For 3 of my losses I went into hospital and they were able to do genetic tests, all of those three had chromosome abnormalities which caused the losses (different issues or translocations each time). I also had your experience of believing everything was fine, saw heartbeat, until it wasn’t. I suppose the fetus keeps going until your body realises that this one isn’t sustainable.

That’s just my experience though. There could be many reasons why this one didn’t work out. The fact that you have a child though is positive as it shows that you can carry.

May I ask, is your current partner the father of your first child? I ask because after our losses we were tested and my husband is the carrier of a chromosome translocation which is why I kept miscarrying. His family were then tested and turns out his mum has the same chromosome translocation. She had 3 healthy children (including my DH!) but he had many losses in between which we now know was down to the chromosome issue.

sorry you’re going through this OP

Thank you ☺️ I am so sorry you have experienced several losses too, very hard.

Do you feel that that is enough for you now? I feel like that right now, can’t imagine going through this again.

Yes he is the father of the first baby, we are looking at paying privately for some additional testing before we think about trying again. Right now though I can’t envisage it.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I MC my first baby at 7 weeks. I had bleeding and went to EPU who saw heartbeat and said all fine. That evening I MC at home. It’s awful and I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Following my MC I conceived both my children with no further MC. Sending you big hugs

Sorry for your loss.

With my first, I had lots of bleeding, but went on to have my son.
This year, i had a loss. I had an early scan at 8 weeks and saw a heartbeat. I knew then though that things didn't look good, as although there was a heartbeat, the pregnancy was meausuring only 6 weeks, which did not match up with my dates. Didn't have the MC until i was nearly 12 weeks. I also have a high BMI this time (top end of overweight), something I didn't have when I had my son, as I was normal weight then. I'm not sure this would be the reason as there are lots of women who have healthy pregnancies despite having high BMIs, but it can be a contributing factor.

My cut off was 40 for my own mental wellbeing. We TTC for almost 10 years, had 6 MC and I knew I couldn’t do it anymore, so when I turned 40 we said enough is enough and moved on. It was hard but it also felt like a weight lifting x