Have been lurking on these boards for the best part of 2 years and it finally feels like time to post myself as I feel so lost and sad.
Husband and I are both 34 and have been TTC for 2 years now. Got pregnant after one full year of trying with no success, that pregnancy ended in miscarriage at 6 weeks 5 days. Fast forward another 7 months and another pregnancy, this time ending at about 5 weeks. So that’s two pregnancies in a two year period, both ending with a loss which passed without any medical intervention. My mental health has definitely taken a hit, I feel so hopeless about it tbh, having that initial excitement after what felt like the longest year ever, for it then to be taken away. The second time nearly broke me.
After the second loss, we had testing done privately as we couldn’t face the NHS three miscarriages before investigation policy. Standard semen analysis showed that morphology was quite low (though doctor wasn’t concerned) and everything else was fine on that front. My recurrent miscarriage bloods panel came back with no issues. No thyroid or other hormone issues. I do have the MTHR mutation so am on high dose folic acid. They did not recommend genetic testing or other tests (basically said it would be really expensive and although those tests might identify an issue, there’s actually very little they can do to reliably treat it). We are both healthy and normal weight etc. The suggestion was to keep trying because the consultant had a good feeling about our chances. He did give me progesterone to take if I get pregnant again. That was last month.
I am worried about waiting though. It’s been 5 months since the last loss and I know I’m being impatient. My AMH was on the lower side of average for my age this time last year. I’m getting older and am wondering if IVF might be a good option to collect eggs and see whether we create good quality embryos, to check if the eggs and sperm are of good quality. Then they could at least pick the best quality embryos. Not keen on going down the embryo genetic testing route as costs could really spiral on that front, and it doesn’t seem fool proof either. I’m well aware that IVF is a gruelling process, and am very much dreading the emotional and physical rollercoaster if we go down that route.
Interested to know what others would do in my situation; wait and see what happens - though this could be a long time based on previous experience, or consider going down the IVF route sooner? I think more than anything I want to feel as though I have some sort of control/am taking positive action. We still do nice things as a couple to take our minds off all this stuff, but it’s constantly there in the background and I feel like it’s dragging me down.