One of my friends has just miscarried- how can I comfort her?

[MummyJules]

I've just found out today that one of my closest friends has miscarried at 8 weeks and I wondered if there was anything special I could do to her help her. Unfortunately I cant go up to see her so its needs to be something via post etc

MTIA,

Jules x

I miscarried on my second pregnancy, I remember feeling very empty (emotionally and physically) and just wanting to be near my existing child.

I think the most important thing you can do is to let her grieve, not to discount her feelings because the foetus was so young. That is more about letting her feel.

Not really any practical advice on what to do but listen and long distant hugs.

erm, just trying to think.
i have had 3 and am just trying to think what would have made me feel better.

i once got a card with:
"an angel wrote in the book of life
my babies date of birth,
then whispered gently as she closed the book
"too precious for this earth".

that i thought was lovely.

A virtual hug, actually saying that you are so sorry about the loss of her baby (not skirting round the subject, but actually mentioning the baby was really important to me), and then continuing to be there and being aware of the important dates would be really appreciated.

If you wanted to send something, maybe a miniature rose bush or another plant would be better than flowers. I found them dying a bit upsetting (had 3 mcs)

I think just being there for her over the coming weeks and months and letting her know that it is ok and perfectly normal to grieve.

I would have been very touched by a card like donbeam describes.

You sound like a very good friend.

maybe a nice short txt each day to remind her you are there if she needs you.
and like cmotibbler said quietly make note of this date and give her some kind of message of support on that day.as to her that day will always be remembered but to others its been and gone.it can be a very lonely time if no one shows they care.
my 1st m/c i recieved a bunch of flowers through interflora,although i cried for a very long time when given them it was partly because it showed someone was thinking about me at this sad time.
she is very lucky to have a friend like you .
but please remember this wont be forgotten next week or even next month she has a long road ahead.

Definitely mentioning the baby. The card I found the most comforting was a friends mum talking about "losing your baby" when everyone else had said "sorry for your loss".

Thanks. I have miscarried three times and never had the support of friends as it wasn't something I felt comfortable to disclose it at the time but I just wanted to help her anyway I can.