feeling low

[candygirl]

hi everyone ! i havent been on mumsnet for along time and am feeling a bit low at the moment,so i thought i would sign in just to remind my self that things arent so bad and that some of you are going through a really upsetting time as we speak.i have had 9 m/c last one being june last year,and reading some of your bloggs really makes you realise that although in your everyday life m/c seems very rare ,when finding this sight brings you relief in some ways (sorry if that sounds wrong)that you are not alone and not the only person this is happening too.people around me just have no understandin as to what i have gone through and still do on a bad day.yes i do have a daughter to which i am so grateful for ,but ! the feeling of letting her down everytime hurts sometimes more than the m/c its self.
i would like to send a big hug to all of you goin through or have suffered a m/c and hope that if you need a understanding ear to cry or moan into i would love to help you in any small way i can.

sorry for posting this so many times am no good on computers

Hi candygirl, I'm so sorry about your m/c's . It must be very difficult for you having had so many - I've had two and that's bad enough.

Have you had any investigations into why they're happening?

This site really has been fantastic recently for me - I had a m/c last week, ending in a d&c and I don't know what I would have done if I hadn't have had the support of people on here. If you are feeling a bit low then you have come to the right place as there are plenty of people to give you comfort and a shoulder to cry on.

Am glad you have a daughter, how old is she?

Will check this thread again tomorrow as am off to bed now, see you then x

Just wanted to say hi. It sounds like you have been through so much Candygirl.

I know what you mean about feeling you are letting your daughter down. I have a 4 yr old who keeps asking for a little brother or sister and I am desperate to give her one.

Since having her, I have had 2 ectopics and 2 miscarriages (both very early). I have recently found out that I am pregnant again. Just gone passed the 5 week mark now and am utterly convinced that this pregnancy is going to be all over before I get in for my 6 week scan.

Are you still trying (if you don't mind me asking)? I sometimes think that I don't know if I should put myself and my family through this anymore, but the thought of giving up is just sooo much worse. I can;t imagine how or when I will ever accept that it is time to give up.

hi charliesmum !
im so sorry charliesmum to hear about your sad news ,i hope you are looking after yourself and resting.i think the second one for me was awful as you just cant believe it has happened again.the doctors js said to me that one is just unfortunate,the second was bad luck then if you have another one we'll then start to investigate things.why should someone have to go through this 3 times before getting help !
i have been under paddington and the only thing they found was that my blood thickens to quick,so i started taking asprin,then got to m/c no8 then given asprin and heparin,but no such luck.am now trying to decided whether to continue this battle or surrender. my daughter is now 16 and leaving school on friday,to which i am not handling well as i feel like i am bein made redundant,i am 36 and not ready to not be a needed mum anymore.
do you have any children ? that was a silly question as your name is charlies mum,do you only have charlie ?
you take care and i hope to hear from you soon

hi bonkershonkers!
sorry to hear what you have been through , but am keeping my fingers so tightly crossed for you this time.i totally understand what you are saying when you say it will be over by wk6 i once watched a program and the women said this is not my 3rd pregnancy this is my 3rd m/c at this time i had just found out i was pregnant with my 3rd attempt and yes it did end up being my 3rd m/c .people tell you to stay positive but it is so hard ,with my last 2 i kept telling myself i am going to have this baby ! but then i felt even more let down when it goes wrong.just take one day at a time thats all you can do and hope luck is with you this time.
do you have the same pattern every time ? mine is like im following a manual. i can also wake up and say to my husband its over and am right every time even when having no symptoms he trust my instincts now.
and as for goin for a scan,it scares me just saying the word now.
the telling my daughter is awful,one time i stayed out side with my neighbour and my husband went in the house the next thing i heard a scream shouting NOOOOOOOOOOOOO!i just cant bear doing this to her and my husband again i feel such a failiure.she was 9 when this all started.
we are not sure what to do next !
ive come this far am i silly to give up now
or
stop putting yourself through something that just isnt gonna happen.
i wish i new.
anyway hopefully you arent gonna have to make that decision,hopefully this is your time.i really do hope so for you,i no what you are going through and it is torture.
you just wanna go to sleep and wake up in a few weeks and find out everything is goin well.
sorry for going on i could talk for ages to you cause i no you understand.
anyways please stay in touch and let me know how you are doing,and make sure you look after yourself and get the understandin you desserve from friends and family.x