Frustrated after missed miscarriage

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I went for an early scan this week at 7 weeks and 2 days as I’d had very light spotting for about 9 days with no other issues and pregnancy symptoms had been progressing and getting worse and I still have them. They told me there was no heartbeat and there should have been for the size and gave me options for treatment. I am planning on arranging surgical this week as nothing has happened and there are no signs it will. I still have nausea and sore boobs and generally feeling tired.

I am feeling really frustrated and annoyed with people who have had very healthy pregnancies after not looking after themselves well. I know this is unreasonable. Has anyone felt similar and when did you stop feeling so annoyed? Thank you x

So sorry you’re going through this, I’ve had 2 MC and have felt so much anger towards people living horridly unhealthy lives but having drama free pregnancies, the world really isn’t fair. You won’t always feel this horrid though, you’re in the thick of it right now so be kind to yourself. Wishing you the best for the future x

It is horrible. I felt the same for years as I kept having miscarriages. I had 9 altogether over many years. It will become easier when other people becoming pregnant so easily aren't on your radar as much because you too have a healthy pregnancy, baby etc. Hope you are getting a lot of support and have a week or two off work to get yourself together. Good luck x

So, so sorry. I have been through this and had the exact same thoughts. I’m sorry I can’t offer more but to say that your feelings are valid and you’re not on your own. I personally felt so disconnected from, and frustrated with, my own body for a while as well. It’s definitely a journey. All very normal, but do try, as much as you’re able, to go easy on yourself. Wishing all the luck and healing as you go forward. X

Thanks so much for the kind words it really does help! Definitely feel like I don’t know my own body as well as I thought. I wasn’t worried about the scan as I’d had such light spotting and strong symptoms like nausea etc. I’m looking forward to hopefully feeling more normal once this is all done and dusted this week. thanks and hope you’re all happy and healthy x

I think it’s probably very normal to feel so angry given the replies.

I was angry at people announcing their pregnancy at 5/6/7/8 weeks because to me, they assumed that everything would be perfect and nothing could go wrong for them. The presumption that they would be fine made me so angry.

Those that got pregnant with no effort too.

But good for them, it’s how it should be, it’s the greatest scenario that I wished I had. That’s all.
Grieving for something that didn’t go as planned.

Eventually it turned into anxiety for their pathway. I felt for them, knowing that there are several paths, not all positive, hoping that it is a positive outcome for them but knowing acutely the pain they would feel if it went wrong.
Didnt wish that on anyone, it’s awful, just torturous.