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TTC after miscarriage -DH changed his mind

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StJamesInfirmary · 18/04/2025 16:26

I had a miscarriage in March at 9 weeks, the baby was measuring 5 weeks. I'd known the whole time it wasnt right, had a strong sense of it. Difficult to explain it but I just knew the whole time it wouldn't end well.
Anyway I've had my first period and talked to DH about TTC again and he's said he doesn't want to due to a medical condition which he's had for a few years, which hasn't changed in the last couple of months and because the miscarriage was difficult.

I feel really stuck as I'd like another baby but if he doesn't want one now I can't do anything. Part of my sadness is that the last pregnancy I carried will have been steeped in sadness and hardly anyone knew about it. I know it's ridiculous but now a part of having another baby is to make the last pregnant I carry a happy thing. Does that make sense? Probably not but either way I just need to talk to someone about it. Like I said not many people knew so not many I can talk to in real life. Just feel very sad that he may not change his mind

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FleaBeeBob · 18/04/2025 16:47

He may just need to time process the loss

rollup · 22/04/2025 22:35

I relate, and I’m here to chat <3

StJamesInfirmary · 24/04/2025 20:52

Really sorry to hear that @rollup it's like being a in limbo. Has your DP given any reasons? I've talked to mine again and he's said that the miscarriage probably upset him more than he realised at the time and doesn't want to risk it again

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