Lack of Support from friends family etc

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How much support has everyone received following their loss?
we were 12 weeks so all ready to announce the pregnancy the no heartbeat on scan. I had to have surgery and have been pretty poorly and complications light effect future pregnancies.
my parents and best friend knew about the baby and a few other friends so I sent out texts about the loss.
Thing is mum told my siblings but none visited I got a text from DS and DB and flowers but that’s it, mum and dad have visited etc but that’s it really
DH has no family support but is feeling really let down by my family and it’s causing friction. We aren’t that close but I guess I expected more DB is only 20mins away,
but also even my oldest friends haven’t offered to visit m. Is it cause people don’t know what to say?!
how can I support hubby though this when I also feel sad about it?!

I'm so sorry about your loss op. When a friend of mine lost a baby at 12w I was round with flowers and sympathy, but I can imagine if it happened to me many people would imagine I'd Want to be left alone so maybe people don't know where to gauge the level of sympathy and support you both need right now?

Some people may feel it's a "private" grief and your supporting each other? Did they know you wanted visitors?

Very sorry for your loss.
What sort of support would you hope for from them?
Many people just don't know what to say or do so do nothing, it's rarely meant unkindly.
If you would like a visit or chat, can you message someone and invite them over?

I have suggest to some friends a visit I just thought others would offer.
i think i thought family would have but yes I know people don’t know what to do
hubby just seems so angry about it

So sorry for your loss. I had the same thing happen to me in 2023. I think the trouble with these situations is that nobody knows what to say. Baby loss at any point during pregnancy or even after is so awful and I think miscarriage in general is very much a tabu subject, despite efforts to make it more often. I just think it is very hard to know what to do or say when friends or family go through these experiences. It shouldn't be, I know. Sending empathetic hugs x

Message them today, invite them round for a cuppa and a chat, hopefully you will feel a little better afterwards x