First period after a mc.. spotting/ non starting?

[Aimz1232024]

Hi everyone.
been really going through it this past month and need some advice please. I may just be worrying about nothing but I’m due my period today after positive ovulation test 9th march and ovulation pains 10th march. I always notice the ovulation pains:.. anyway prior to this I lost my pregnancy at ten weeks on 8th of feb and it’s been the worry time of my life I’ve had to go to counselling to try to carry on and I’m existing at the moment. I did not have a d&c . I was happy to see a positive ovulation test to start trying again. Pregnancy tests were negative when I checked early march but 2 days ago became positive again and then shortly after they were negative . I believe I may have had a chemical pregnancy? Not sure. Anyways my cramps have started today but there is no bleeding just a tiny bit of pink on the tissue about the size of a small coin. I’m concerned now… if I did infact ovulate then why hasn’t any bleeding started? Just wanted to see if anyone else had something similar after a MC and did it resolve? Just want to ttc again and I don’t know what’s going on with my body. I have just started reflexology for stress management too but I doubt that’s got anything to do with it. Maybe the flow will start properly soon but at the moment it’s non existent. I have a doctors appointment tomorrow over the phone but would really like to hear others experiences.

Thank you in advance.

Hi OP, really sorry to hear about your MC. I had one too and they are terrible. I'm not a medical professional in anyway but what I will say is that your hormones will be all over the place and so it's unlikely that your body will follow its 'normal' routines timing wise for a few months. This is especially true if you are feeling stressed. Try not to worry or count the days just now.

I know this is easy to say and also really unhelpful, but do try to relax and focus on feeling positive and keeping healthy generally.

after my MC, I was absolutely desperate to conceive, so much so that it became an obsession. I'm sure it was because of this obsession - which caused so much stress and anxiety - that my body stayed out of rhythm for months and it took me over 18 months after the MC to conceive! Ironically, it was only after I resigned myself to not getting pregnant that it happened.

please take care and try to relax by being kind to yourself. Sending hugs xxxx

Thank you for your kind words.
i too am feeling so desperate it’s so hard. I feel so anxious. My period flow is so light it has me worried. I’m hoping it sorts itself out fairly soon so I can try again. A little worried that it means I have a thin lining.

I'm sorry for your loss OP
I've lost 3 and each returning period has been different. As the above poster said, hormones are rife. How many days did you see positive pregnancy tests?

I understand the desire to TTC ASAP. Years of reading stories on MN though, and doing a great deal of reading up after my losses, it seems that many that get pregnant straight after a loss, sadly then have another. There are rare cases of those going to term, but I do feel the body needs to fully recover, clear the MC and built up the lining again.

Please give yourself some time to both physically and mentally recover. This website is very helpful, and they also have a helpline if needed.
www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/

How are you getting on OP?

Hi,

thank you for asking.

not great really.

period arrived two days late and is now normal flowand I’m ok with that but it’s the what ifs of the baby I’ve lost that is really making me depressed. I feel partly to blame because I was not resting after the first lot of bleeding and I had an accident whilst on a set of ladders. I feel like all this trauma is my fault. The baby was not planned and had I have been more careful then maybe this traumatic event would not have occurred.

trying again is the only thing keeping me going but my husband has said to me that I need to be right mentally before we try which I agree with but it’s the trying that’s keeping me going. I’m also going to be 37 in June so I feel like time is running out. I hope that he can see I’m getting there soon because I don’t want to miss the next few months we’re you’re supposed to be more fertile.

honestly I just feel very down and devastated.

thank you for asking how I am though.

the tests were positive for 2-3 days. I’m wondering if my body and hormones weren’t right hence the chemical. I don’t know.

OP- You can't blame an accident on a ladder for an MC! You do know that the vast majority of MC's are due to random, genetic issues. Your DH is correct, in that you need to be mentally, along with physically ready to conceive again. If this was unplanned, does he even want more children?

You might benefit from speaking to someone professionally to discuss your feelings. Ask your GP about CBT or seek other forms of counselling. Even yoga, walking, swimming etc can help the mind and body too. Wishing you all the best.

Hugs OP. It was not your fault OP. Please please try to not let the pressure you're putting on yourself be all encompassing. It can dominate absolutely everything. I know it's easy to say and not so easy to do. For me, I had to try to focus on 'other' things - holidays, career, fitness.... anything I could to distract from the stress I was putting myself under. Sending hugs OP and prayers xxxx

Thank you for your kind words.

ive asked him and he has said he would really love another child. I think he was shocked initially but we both came around to it.

just worried the stress will impact me conceiving. I hope not but I’ll focus on other things if I can.

thank you

Thank you.

i really will try.. it’s the what ifs and im struggling so badly with guilt and wondering what if.

i have decided ill just have to try carry on and ill eat well and just keep trying. Im 36 so hopefully it will happen.

you’re right though, it is very consuming.