Suspected Miscarriage - what can I expect

[missmarplesapprentice]

I’m 8.5 weeks from my last period and starting cramping and bleeding yesterday. There’s some clots in the blood, it is mainly when on the toilet (sorry tmi). I went to OOH gap (the lady was in exactly what I needed and she was supportive. She has me as minimal risk of ectopic and booked me a scan in a few days (earliest she could get).
Can anyone advise what to expect? Both myself and DH are struggling as it was a much wanted 2nd pregnancy but trying to keep focused. I think knowing what to expect might help process what’s going on. Thank you.

**Out of hours GP

I’m so sorry you’re going through this stress. Hopefully it’s a little bleeding and everything will be ok.

Over the next few days keep an eye on the bleeding. If you have miscarried, it may get heavier. As well as the lining, there is the sac and placenta that would also need to pass. This may be more noticeable and you might feel pressure when it comes out. I’m sorry if this is horrible to hear right now. I mentioned it as I didn’t know this when I received treatment for a missed miscarriage and wasn’t prepared for it. I wish I’d known.

At the scan they’ll likely do an internal one as you’re early in the pregnancy and will look for a heartbeat.

Keep your little one and DH close and get lots of cuddles. Wishing you the best x

Thank you I really appreciate you taking the time to reply. The GP said they’ll go through management options on Wednesday once they’ve done the scan. Thank you for the heads up about an internal scan, I struggled with lots of vaginal examinations in my last pregnancy so at least I can prepare myself that this is an option I might have to deal with. If you don’t mind me asking, did you wait and let the miscarriage happen naturally or did you take medication to speed it along?

I took the misoprotosol to speed it up as I just wanted it to be over. I was also worried about scarring from a D&C. However I underestimated how painful it would be, thankfully I had co-codamol from the doctor as paracetamol wouldn’t cut it. I felt dreadful for days afterwards. It didn’t work and I was left with a small bit of tissue so had to have a D&C anyway. It was fine and I probably should have done it in the first place. The bleeding lasted for three weeks with both of the interventions, so not sure how much it was speeded up in the end.

Had similar with my first pregnancy.

I remember the GP on the phone asking questions about how much blood I was losing: a thimbleful, and eggcup full etc and I found it very difficult to judge.

Didn’t manage to have a scan until the 5th day and yes it was internal, which I hadn’t been expecting. Seeing the heartbeat was a wonderfully reassuring experience. I hope you have a similar outcome.

My daughter is now 27.

Thank you both. I really wasn’t expecting internal so at least I’m prepared and I’ll have DH with me. I gave birth during Covid restrictions so very much alone before. The GP I had happened to be ex- gynae so was really informative and did say it was very likely based on my symptoms. Hopefully I’ll get an answer on Wednesday.

I very much wasn’t in the right frame of mind to update the kind posters back in March. Unfortunately it was a miscarriage and by the time I was scanned I had passed most of it so they couldn’t even tell me how far along I had been apart from confirm I had been pregnant. I was grateful that I didn’t have to have any further interventions and was able to start trying again a few months later. I’m now nearly 8months pregnant (very lucky it happened the first cycle and I’m anxious at every quiet moment) but forever grateful for the advice I received here which helped me mentally prepare.