Hi everyone,
I’m sorry for the long post, but I really need to get this off my chest. Last week, I found out I had a missed miscarriage, and I had a D&C procedure yesterday morning. When my partner and I first received the news, he decided to go ahead with a pre-planned golf trip the very next day. He was away for five days, and during that time, he went out every evening, got extremely drunk, and even lost his phone.
I was left at home, completely devastated and unable to get out of bed the entire time he was gone. I felt so alone and heartbroken, and his absence only made things worse. When he finally returned, it was as if nothing had happened, and he showed up for my D&C appointment like everything was normal.
Since he’s been back, we’ve been arguing because I told him I needed him to be there for me during this incredibly difficult time. Last night, I completely broke down, and his response was, “I’m not dealing with these episodes you’re having. Go get yourself some help.”
To make matters worse, during my D&C yesterday, he claimed he felt “sick” and somehow made the entire day about himself. After the appointment, he came home and lay on the sofa while I ended up cooking lunch and dinner for him.
I feel like I’m going through this completely alone, and I’m not sure how much more I can handle emotionally. I wish I had a more understanding and supportive partner during this time. Has anyone else experienced something similar? I’m at a loss for what to do.