20 week miscarriage

[Tingle1515]

We recently suffered a late miscarriage at 20 weeks. It was a very traumatic experience because it happened at my house in front of my other children. We have been trying to mourn the loss, but I feel like I’m also suffering from the way that it happened. Any thoughts or suggestions on how to process everything would be appreciated.

I am so very sorry for your loss. We lost our daughter at 16 weeks in August and have two living children. It was very traumatic. I grieved intensely initially. I had bereavement counselling via a baby loss charity which was hugely helpful and tried to find ways to honour our daughter while still trying to keep life normal for our other children.
Our daughter has a memorial pebble in the baby loss garden near us, I have jewellery with her initial on, and we have little keepsakes around the house. We talk about her often and the children have bears that make them think of her.
There's no right or wrong, but these things brought us comfort. Be kind to yourself.
Zoe Coates- Clark baby loss guide was very helpful for us.

I'm so sorry to hear this.

I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks many years ago. It was very traumatic both emotionally and physically (and hospital care then wasn't as sympathetic as it is now and that aspect of it added to the trauma).

I don't really have any advice because I'm not sure what could have helped me at the time and during the very long grieving process afterwards (other than having another baby).

Time does heal eventually... xx