How long do I need to wait?

[Isittime1984]

Hi, had a mc at 5weeks. Had last bloods done couple of days ago and everything is ‘resolved’ (I love hospital terminology). I didn’t need any intervention. I am keen to start asap again as I have read that this can work straight after a miscarriage, but need to convince my wife as she wants us to wait a couple of months as the clinic suggested. Does anyone know if there can be a good advantage to start soon after?

I'm so sorry for your loss
Were you pregnant or your wife? Sorry, its a bit confusing. Some people want time to grieve and don't feel that can rush right into TTC again. Although technically possibly to conceive without a period, the vast majority that I've read on here, go on to MC yet again. There are rare exception, but I'm sure its down to allowing the uterine lining to build up again properly.

Sorry if TMI, but are you using IVF or donor sperm- hence the mention to a clinic? Why aren't you also following the advice of the professionals and instead want your wife pregnant ASAP?

@Darkclothes thanks for your reply. It was myself that was pregnant and would be me trying again. Yes we are with a clinic. I am looking to follow their advice, but just wondered if anyone had experienced any benefit of trying sooner.

I do know of people who went straight back to TTC and have healthy pregnancy and say you're fertile straight after. I just miscarried first pregnancy at 11weeks, my OH and I have decided it's best for us to wait a cycle to start again but I have found that decision is an emotional one and has triggered a bit of heartbreak grief and rejection feeling for me which I'm working through, practically it makes sense but it's a bit upsetting. You can decide what's best for you but in reading up about it I don't think it matters physically either way when you try again as long as you feel up to it.

Hey OP, sorry for your loss. Have your clinic said why they recommend you waiting a few months?

I had a MMC recently and had surgery to remove so a little different. But, I do need to wait a cycle as I have a very small amount of retained tissue which will come out with my first period post surgery. I had been told if this wasn’t the case, we could’ve tried again straight away (although even mentally I’m glad to just have a little break so we probably would have waited one cycle anyway). We was told the main reason to “wait” is for dating purposes, as obviously LMP would have you much further along than you’d be, but I believe they would use the miscarriage date if you didn’t have a period again. I just thought I’d ask if there was a medical reason, as if there is, you should take their advice.

Very similar here, I went for the natural option but have small amount retained which should come out with next period but won't be trying until that happens. We were considering having a one month break anyway too! They also said it would prevent infection and to use protection if we do have sex. It feels like such a long time and it's been a confidence knock so going to try and look after ourselves now. Big hugs to you