Miscarrying @ 5 Weeks

[anglm]

Hey all,
I was just wondering how long the bleeding lasted for you at five nearly six weeks.
My bleeding started yesterday with light pinkish discharge and turned today into normal period like bleeding.
Have definitely lost hope of there still being anything left but going to the EPU if I get a positive test on Sunday (2 days time).

This is my first pregnancy so feeling very disheartened and envisioning a life babyless.
Any advice would be appreciated.

Hi, sorry to hear. It's so tough. Take enough time to process things.
I had a mc just before 6 weeks in December and bleeding lasted 4 days pretty much. Then ovulation etc at predicted time after.

I have had 2 mc now with no successful pregnancies. I felt so shocked after my first, just never thought it'd happen to me - not known any family have mc and never had period problems etc. Just felt so traumatised.
It's normal catastrophise but do remember most people have a successful next pregnancy after a mc. One mc is no reason to believe otherwise. Keep hopeful xx

I was also 5 weeks when I had mine. Bleeding lasted about 13 days, started like you light and then got heavier. It’s so nice to not be bleeding anymore, but doesn’t make the loss any easier

Hey OP
im so sorry you are in this situation.

i miscarried over 4 weeks ago at 5-6 weeks. The bleeding started off fairly heavy for a day and then I was left with mild bleeding for the two weeks after.

my tests did not turn negative until the bleeding stopped.

@anglm I'm so so sorry for what you are going through.

I miscarried yesterday. I was 5w5d when all my symptoms faded. It was an ivf cycle and my first pregnancy. They scanned me at 6w2days and saw an empty sac. I stopped progesterone and estrogen and the bleed started 4 days ago on Tuesday, light spotting. I was in touch with the EPU on Wednesday and they talked me through all my symptoms - cramping and looked like a light period - because I wanted to miscarry at home. I had small clots at this stage. All day Thursday I had a heavy bleed then I woke up at midnight with heavy cramping and it happened. I was able to sleep again.

The miscarriage association website shows plenty of stories from women who have been through it. I prepared myself - lots of paracetamol and ibuprofen, thick pads.

EPU Nurse said to take a pregnancy test in 3 weeks because hormones will take a while to settle and then period will be due 4-6 weeks after.

I disliked hearing people say it's common to happen - I feel it discounted my experience. Like you envisioning a babyless future. I can't bear it. But I'm taking time out. I wish I could take time off but I can't - too many work commitments. Therapy is helping and talking to the right friends and family so reach out and be open.

We will be happy again 🙏🏼

Thank you for your response.
I truly believe our little babies are somewhere safe in heaven and you kept those babies safe for as long as you could.
Praying for a healthy pregnancy and a baby in your arms as soon as you are ready. Xxx

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through the same thing. Just because it is common doesn't make it any less painful.
I'm on day four and believe that the worst of the fog has lifted. Please keep having hope that your future will be bright and you will one day have a baby in your arms.
Your baby was loved and wanted. Xxx

I miscarried years ago and it left me so bereft I was off work for 3 weeks just lying in bed. It's a dark confusing time that's for sure.

but I was pregnant 3 months later with DS followed not long after by DD who are now in their teens

A friend miscarried at the same time as me and also got pregnant 3 months later our DS were born a day apart

It is such a weird time. I'm so glad you have your two gorgeous children. There is light at the end of the tunnel. Xxx

It's more common than we realise because it's not really something people want to talk about although it's discussed more these days.

In my day it was never discussed, we didn't really know much about miscarriages or that it was even a thing really so when it happened it was quite an unexpected shock. It's not till you meet and talk to other mums at baby groups that you realise so many of us have had that awful experience. I think it probably helps a bit that celebrities discuss their experiences of miscarriage on social media to bring awareness of life during and beyond the darkness. It's an emotional black hole.

Sending virtual hugs. Xx

I'm currently going through the same right now. I was 5 weeks 4 days when I started bleeding. I knew it was going to happen as my tests were fading 😢 I have to say I've found it tough this time. I had a chemical last September around 4 weeks and that was quite similar to a normal period. This has been different. I'd developed quite strong symptoms too and to see them slowly go away has been hard 😢I'm on day 2 of 'proper' bleeding now and the cramping has stopped at least. It was very bad just before I started spotting on Friday. It's that empty feeling that's the worst. I hope we all get our much deserved rainbow babies very soon 🤞🏼 🌈

I am so sorry with what you're going through. It's so so tough. I have to say I am in the same situation as you. Biochemical in September and I didn't have pregnancy symptoms then. Restarted ivf cycle in January and I thought, new year, new beginnings. No bleeding felt encouraging until that 6 week scan to see empty sac. I realised the hormones I was on kept the bleeding symptoms at bay so I didn't find out until the scan.

I have been up and down with my cramping and bleeding - it would taper off then become strong again.

Look after yourself, do all the things to make you comfortable. Feel all the feels and stay hopeful 🙏🏼

@Pennyroses im so sorry you’re going through it twice. It absolutely is the empty feeling. For me also, I found out my sister is pregnant about the same time, so hard watching her grow as I would have been.

Had 5 MC - 3 first trimester. Bleeding lasted about 7-10 days or so. You were very early on so it’s a slightly longer period at this stage. Sorry about your loss.

I think i bled for around 10days or so. I'm so sorry to hear you are going through this. I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks and then conceived my ds 2 months later. For now just take your time to process this.

@Lovefaithnotfear I'm so sorry for your loss too 😞 it must be awful to get to the scan and find out. That's what I was worrying about, I had a late loss in 2023 and my fear was having to go back into that hospital and scan room only for bad news again 😢

Thankyou for your kind words, we really do need to look after ourselves and take it easy. That's what I've been doing today. I told work what happened as I wanted today off but my boss told me to take the whole week off! So I'm going to try and just rest and gather myself so I can feel ready to try again 🤞🏼 good luck to you, I really hope you get your baby soon xx

@Isittime1984 thankyou and I'm sorry for your loss too 😞 oh I can imagine that must be so tough for you 💔 my best friend is pregnant now - 11 weeks, luckily she lives in Australia so I don't have to see her but it still hurts. But then she's been through a lot too, she had 2 chemicals and a miscarriage at 12 weeks before this one so in a way if everything works out for her 🤞🏼it gives me a bit of hope it can still happen after multiple loss. I hope you get your baby soon ✨🤞🏼xx

This is so difficult. We told family we had miscarried and two days later my DHs brother announced him and his wife were having a baby.
Said he was sorry for "our situation". So painful.

@anglm I'm so sorry, life is just cruel at times. It's hard enough losing a very loved and wanted baby but when family and friends are then having what we lost - it's not fair 💔 my neighbour is due to give birth any day and I've just bought a card and gift. Feels so unfair 😭

Definitely. We have to keep our hope, without that we have nothing! Sometimes it feels like there is baby scarcity but the worst thing we can allow ourselves to become is bitter, we deserve to be happy!
Our time will come and I truly believe that.
I pray your baby makes its way to you soon. 🪽🩷

I’m also trying not to blame myself as i keep going over in my head if I hadn’t have done this and that it might have stuck. We also did a double transfer so it seems even worse

@anglm that's right, we need to keep hope! It's amazing how we do really but it shows how much we want this, despite all the heartache 💔 Thankyou and I pray you get your baby soon too!! 🙏🏼✨

@Isittime1984 you did absolutely nothing wrong I can promise you that! Honestly, I do understand as I've even found myself doing this, it's only natural. But it's not true - think of all the women who didn't even know they were pregnant and did all sorts and their babies were fine. And it's not fair I know but it doesn't mean you did anything wrong. Try to be kind to yourself if your can - lots of self-care. You'll feel a bit better in time. When you're feeling a bit stronger you can make decisions about what to do next. I can only imagine how gruelling the IVF journey is 😞 take care and I hope things turn around for you very soon 🤗

Hi ladies so glad I found this thread me and dh in same situation It’s my first pregnancy after trying for 4 years been with fertility services and got this pregnancy through Letrozole treatment was 5 weeks but tests were fading and started bleeding heavy today feels sad and hard emotionally and physically ☹️

I'm so sorry to hear this. It really is so so incredibly painful. The days are truly long and it feels like there is no certainty in the future.
Please try and take the light moments as they come, and I promise they will come.
You will be forever changed but you can overcome the darkness.
We are here for you. 🩷