Worried I won’t ovulate or conceive again

[Aimz1232024]

I’m really worried that I won’t ovulate.
i lost my baby just under three weeks ago and i know I need to give it time but im so stressed and want to ovulate and get pregnant again it’s all I can think about. I’ve recently lost 90lbs in weight over the last year and noticed a few times last year ovulation pain and confirmed I was ovulating but some months I didn’t notice it? I only tested when I felt the pains so could’ve missed it. A scan on my ovaries showed they were in great shape but still I’m here stressing thinking I won’t ovulate regularly and won’t get pregnant again. I’m 36.. any success stories please? I don’t know if I have pcos but I used to be very obese and was told back then it was possible. I’m losing my mind :(

I don't currently have a success story but didn't want to read and run as I am in a similar position at 33yo

I had a mmc about 3 weeks ago but I am trying not stress about when I will ovulate / get my period and go with the flow as stress is not going to help. I've been doing opk tests for about a week with no peak as of yet, I do not have a negative hcg which, after medical management of the mmc, I am happy with.

In terms of pcos, when you had your scan of your ovaries did they check for cysts? I had a similar tests around two years ago. The ultrasound of my ovaries and bloods on day 2 of my cycle confirmed I did not have pcos. If you're not sure, maybe try to get in with your GP or I know some private places who do pregnancy ultrasounds do general female health tests. I think window to the womb do at least from when I've looked if you need peace of mind.

If you've had a significant weight loss then that's positive. Just make sure you continue to look after yourself at the moment as hard as it is. Eating well, exercising, sleeping well and minimising stress can only be helpful on this journey.

Wishing you all the best!

I’m sorry for your loss.

I just wanted to add that since my mid 20s I only feel ovulation pain when it’s from one of my ovaries. Never felt anything from my other side. So it does happen where you don’t always feel it.

I know this stress and feel for you. I had a MMC at 12 weeks when I was 38. We tried really hard for 1.5 years afterwards tests/ovulation tracking/lost 2 stone to be a healthy BMI, I gave up after a year and a half an hitting 40 and now I'm 41 and 22 weeks pregnant with a healthy girl. I absolutely didn't believe people when they said try not to stress and overplan etc. but honestly that is what happened here.

Thank you everyone for your comments. It’s just a horrible time. Wishing you all the best x

I've never noticed any signs of ovulation in terms of twinges or pain. Only a change in CM - there's more of it and it's slippery, which seems to come before ovulation rather than during. I always test for ovulation as otherwise I'd have no idea it was happening!
I have a 3 year old already. I also suffered my first loss in January. It's frustrating waiting! I had some retained tissue from the loss which I'm hoping has come out with my AF (need a rescan in a few weeks)

@Aimz1232024 to add to my comments from yesterday, my opk this morning is showing as high so likely my peak will be tomorrow and all appears that I am set to ovulate, I miscarried on 12/02/25 at 11 weeks pregnant.

I rarely feel physical symptoms of ovulation and I HATE testing my opk as I think that causes me stress and it becomes almost a chore to make sure we bd "enough" etc. The cycle where I got pregnant before my mmc I did not track my opk but I had done for a few months prior so somewhat understood when I should ovulate. My intention now is to test for a couple of months post mmc to make sure I again understand when I should ovulate and then stop testing when I'm sure everything is back to "normal" (unless I fall pregnant again in this time... 🤞)

Hey!

I’m so sorry you’re going through this and sorry for your loss. I had a MMC in January and the surgery to resolve. I have been tracking my ovu to try get an idea of when my period would return as I honestly had the same concerns as you. I got a positive ovulation test 3 weeks 3 days post surgery and my BBT confirmed ovulation had happened 2 days later. I’m sure your cycle will return soon, it can take a little less or a little longer for everyone but the hospital said 4-6 weeks to me, which I’m on track for.

Whilst you’re in the thick of it right now, take good care of yourself and I am sure you will go on to have a healthy baby one day soon.

UPDATE:

looks like I am going to ovulate .. I’ve had some mild ovulation pains too.. usually they’re very bad but they’re mild at the moment. Really hope my body does release the egg and isn’t teasing me!

we’ve BD the last three days in a row and plan to tomorrow and maybe Tuesday too.. I hope it works.

@Aimz1232024 good luck!! 🤞

Ahh that’s good news @Aimz1232024, my LH and BBT was definitely accurate as AF landed for me today (we didn’t try last cycle as was advised not to so no sadness on that front). Fingers crossed for you! 🤞

Thank you! Good luck to you too when you do get to try. That’s great you’re lh and bbt has been accurate too!

I’ve also had pretty strong ovulation pains today too so that’s encouraging. I’ve been under some stress though so hoping that won’t affect anything but I think we’ve given it our best shot so if it happens then great if not we will keep going.

I've never really had any obvious signs of ovulation and I'm on my third pregnancy since July, I'm 37. I've never tracked ovulation or deliberately had intercourse during my fertile week, just regular sex based on mood. I'm probably in the lucky camp from that perspective. I'm an obsessive person my nature and it's been a conscious decision to not give myself 3-4 months without tracking to conceive before going down that route as I think the lower stress and anxiety would counter the knowledge. For me it's worked, just hoping to manage to stay pregnant this time around!

I had my last miscarriage in December and conceived before my period returned and was over 7 weeks when I found out I was pregnant with a positive scan at 8+3 weeks the following week much further along that my last pregnancy managed as it never progressed past 6 weeks gestation. Not finding out until later has been less stressful and I think that's been beneficial for me as life has been generally more stressful as I was made redundant last month!