8 weeks pregnant, symptoms have all gone and getting lower pelvic cramps. Third pregnancy after 2 recurrent miscarriages. .

[Bighugs88]

Hello everyone,
Feeling really alone and worried, but know I cannot change anything it's not in my control. I am 36 years old, we have a daughter who is 7 years old she was conceived after trying for 2 years. I was referred via gp to a gynaecologist, the tests were fine and after having the HSG X-ray in May 2016 I fell pregnant next month in June. The early pregnancy with my daughter I had no cramps, no bleeding, but really bad food aversions, weird sense of smell and was sick from weeks 7 to week 10.
We started trying for a second baby after when she started reception full time school. I was pregnant straight away in Dec 2021, but I just knew that something wasn't right it's a weird feeling, but I had no symptoms apart from sore boobs which overnight went and I felt like normal meaning how I would feel when my period has finished. I stared getting intense cramps all over and my lower back and then after 2 days around 6 weeks I started bleeding. The EGU confirmed via scan and blood tests that I was having a miscarriage. Then we started trying again after 2 months I fell pregnant again but had another miscarriage very early at 5 weeks and 2 days confirmed by EGU as I started bleeding and hcg levels where dropping. So after this I was devasted my gp did refer me via NHS to a gynaecology clinic but had basic tests and do HSG this time round as it's not covered with this clinic via NHS and the results were fine. We weren't using contraception but I wasn't tracking and we weren't trying continuously as I was exhausted, tired and upset. After 3 years I missed my period In Jan 2025 I was 7 days late and I did a pregnancy test and it was positive. I was happy, but very neutral as I had 2 recurrent miscarriages before I knew that anything can happen. I had a bitter taste in my mouth, nausea and heartburn. I contacted the EGU and due to my history they called me in for an early scan which I attended on 18th Feb I was still having symptoms then the sonographer confirmed viable pregnancy at 7 weeks and 2 days and she saw heartbeat and measurements where fine. She did say that it is still early stages so do refer for antenatal clinic and before my first booking appointment if I notice intense cramping or blood then to contact EGU.

Sorry for the long post, I have my antenatal appointment for 4th March and have a gp phone appointment this Tuesday on 25th Feb. But I am really worried because since my scan after Friday 21st Feb my symptoms have gone and I just don't feel pregnant anymore. I am having cramps but they are very light so far no bleeding. But the hunger pans and nausea sore boobs everything has gone it's been now 3 days. The cramps are all over my lower pelvic area and my gut instinct is telling me something is not right. But I don't know what to do should I ring EGU again? If this is another loss the waiting it going to be so hard. I haven't told anyone except husband that I am pregnant due to previous losses and I haven't been overly excited as I am aware that this can happen again for me.
Just was hoping someone could provide advice about what I should do? Because EGU will see me if I have bad cramps or blood.

It's hard and sad to go through this with every pregnancy test I should be excited but the fear and sadness is so overwhelming it has ripped away my happiness. My daughter she is always asking for a sibling when I went for my scan on the 18th Feb she said mama I am happy thank u so much, when is baby coming, when will your belly go big, can I listen to your belly
It's so sad 😢 but I have reached a stage that this the reality for many couples recurrent miscarriages are something I cannot change.

Couldn't read and run.

Sorry you are going through this. Sending you a virtual hug.

Having had multiple recurrent MCs myself, I can relate to everything you have written. Hopefully your pregnancy will continue but please be kind to yourself if it doesn't.

There is no right or wrong way to deal with this, do whatever makes you feel better. I kept things quite private as talking about it made me feel worse, other women I know have been open about it.

@Pipsquiggle
Thanks for your message and kind words. I am sitting awake now and just spoke to my husband as he is getting ready for work. He is supportive and says it's not in our hands. He has said to me not to worry so much and we will see how things go.
I am so sorry for your losses, it's hard apart from my husband I haven't spoken to any other family members regarding this pregnancy because with my 2 other losses previously a few family members knew from my husband's side and my side and they probably didn't mean to probably their lack of awareness regarding pregnancy loss they said u are stressed u walk a lot so u miscarried basically hinting it was my fault. People can say the most insensitive things. It's just a waiting game at the moment, but I feel so empty inside like it will not progress. Let's see I have my antenatal booking appointment next week Tuesday May ask for an earlier scan before 12 weeks.
Thank you

Did anyone go for 12 week scan with symptoms gone many weeks earlier and cramping and everything was fine on the scan?
Feeling so negative and empty inside. I have a strobg gut feeling foetus/ embryo has stopped growing 😭

Hello, wanted to offer some support. I experienced a loss in December. A quick back story, I have three live children, I am 39. My husband and I were desperate for a 4th so thought we would go for it and life with no regrets. I was amazed to fall pregnant first time trying after having my last 7 years ago. We were so so thrilled…With all my children I was lucky to fall pregnant straight away and have uncomplicated pregnancies. So when I decided to go for a six week reassurance scan because I don’t often get any pregnancy symptoms, I was shocked to learn that the baby was measuring small. I was told that this was quite normal and that I needed to go back in two weeks time, I had been spotting for the entire pregnancy up until this six week mark…again some spotting was not unusual for me but I knew this for far too long. Under a false sense security that I’ve always been fine, I didn’t think anything of it when I went back two weeks later we discovered that the baby hadn’t developed had it should and there was no heartbeat. I was still bleeding at this time lightly, and was devastated! The day after the miscarriage took its natural cause. I am now pregnant again and tomorrow I am going up for a follow-up scan at eight weeks. Two weeks ago I went again for an early reassurance scan I was told that everything was measuring correctly however they could not confirm a fetal pole and dated me at five weeks six days. I have been a ball of anxiety ever since and googled every symptoms or not symptom going. From what I have read, symptoms can come and go during early pregnancy. Again, I’ve never really suffered with pregnancy symptoms other than sore boobs I am on progesterone and baby aspirin, which my consultant started me on aspirin from a positive test and progesterone as spotting didn’t settle…I’ve had no bleeding apart from the beginning, and my boobs are still sore! But my head is still swirling thinking the worst case scenario every time MMC etc etc .

Nothing anyone says can really calm my brain so I really really sympathise with what you are going through. The only thing that helps me is to keep busy, and off the Internet incidentally! I know I won’t sleep tonight, but I also know that everything is completely out of my control, which does and doesn’t help! But rest assured, I have heard lots of stories of people having no symptoms whatsoever and going to their scans and everything being absolutely fine! I will keep everything crossed for you at what is a very anxious time
xx

@LouGPC
Thank you for your message, sorry about your loss in December it's devastating. I wish you all the best for your scan tomorrow hoping everything goes well for you. I will be 8 weeks tomorrow, but feel really negative at the moment.
My booking as appointment is on the 4th March I will hopefully ask the midwife team about an earlier scan due to my history and concerns. I had a scan 7 days ago but for the past 4 days I feel something is not right I am hoping I am wrong.

If this pregnancy does not progress my husband has said he cannot see me suffer like this and suggested that we might not try continuously and see how things go.
To be honest with you I do agree with him to a certain extent. My daughter who is 7 years old has always asked for a sibling and she will hug my stomach and speak about having a brother or sister. I have been trying for a second baby since 2021 and had 2 recurrent miscarriages and after 3 years since my last loss I am pregnant. Having a successful pregnancy will mean the world to me and for my daughter. However, the constant worry and not being happy when getting a positive pregnant test result, then going for scans to be told sorry there is no heart beat and to start bleeding when I have no control over this. My basic results are all fine and with husband, we cannot afford to go private I mean we cover our mortgage, bills and groceries. I work part-time and so we do have some money left over each month, but saving this for future needs with regards bills or by chance if something was to happen I don't know debt (eventhough we are cautious, but anything can happen it is a dire situation at the moment with the cost of living) we would have savings to cover. I am also just too tired and exhausted to keep on trying and trying. We are lucky to have our daughter things don't go as we plan and it's ok. It's heartbreaking males and females will suffer from secondary infertility with or without any cause.cits very difficult to accept, but I don't want to live my life into my late thirties of the constant stress and anxiety which has already taken a lot on me. I will just have to see how things go this time round and then take a break.

Sorry OP I haven't ever had a mc but it did take 4 years for me to conceive. I'm 39 weeks and dye my section on Wednesday with my miracle baby. I lost all of my symptoms at around 7.5 weeks and didn't get any again until around 15 weeks. I also cramped pretty much all of my pregnancy so had loads of scans but all was always fine.

If you bled with your other mc and haven't with this pregnancy id be convinced all is well. I was convinced something had went wrong when all my symptoms went and I didn't feel pregnant at all.

My mum had a missed mc that never grew past 6 weeks and she had awful symptoms all the way until her 12 week scan where she found out the pregnancy wasn't viable so I don't necessarily think symptoms are a good way of knowing if things will work out.

Try not to compare your daughters pregnancy with your currently pregnancy, there all totally different and doesn't mean somethings gone wrong - contact egu about your cramping if it will make you feel better

Good luck x

@anonny55
Thank you for your message and wishing you all the best with your pregnancy. Thank you for your reassurance and kind words. A lot of people have said the same thing with regards to presence and absence is symptoms doesn't usually indicate how the pregnancy is progressing. When I had the scan last week I mentioned the cramping to the sonographer but at that point of time the pregnancy was fine according to the scan. It's just my guy feeling as I feel something is not right. I will mention to my gp today.

Best of luck @Bighugs88 ill be thinking of you and crossing everything x

Hi, I am in a similar situation and the waiting is horrible. I got my positive 21.1.25 and had an early private scan 9.2. They said I measured 5w 2days whereas I thought I was 6. Then rescanned 23.2 and the embryo had grown from 2.5 to 3.8 but I was still measuring at 5w 4 days. I got referred to nhs hospital who said my embryo is 2.5 5w 4 days but my sac is 7w 2days. I have to go back next week. I didn’t have morning sickness with my first and haven’t experienced it this time round however my boobs are little sore and I’m so tired. I know it doesn’t look good and I’ve excepted that but I’m holding on to little bit of hope. I hope that if it is a miscarriage that I pass before my appointment next week. So far I haven’t had any real symptoms - apart from some back pain and some cramping but manageable

@Sunshine8537
I hope your scan goes well next week, but the waiting is just horrendous and not knowing what is going on as we have no control over this. I spoke to my gp today she just said to watch out for painful cramps and any bleeding to contact EGU. I had the scan last week measuring 7weeks and 2 days and now nothing until my 12 week scan which might be end of March 2025. I am tempted to go for a private scan but I know how I am if I get this done I will start worrying about something else and going back and forth. With my previous 2 losses I started bleeding, but a missed miscarriage scares me. I have a bitter taste in my mouth and some indigestion, but I don't feel pregnant at all. It's sad isn't it that this is meant to be a time for happiness after getting a positive pregnancy test after 3 years since my last loss, but I don't let myself go down the route of thinking about baby names and clothes as it's just so sad to think that anything can happen and I have no control over it.
I wish you well it's hard what you are going through sending you hugs.