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Miscarriage 10 weeks after ivf

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Whattodo1235 · 09/01/2025 15:33

Hi everyone
sadly I have had a confirmed miscarriage at 10 weeks after ivf.
it has been a long journey with Ivf starting 6 years ago

after the first round ended in miscarriage we were lucky enough to have a second round which has given us our beautiful nearly 4 year old

i had always been content with that we would be “one and done” and pictured a life as a family of 3.
last year we decided to do another round of ivf. Im not sure what shifted mentally to want to go again but I know I wanted to at least try to give her the chance of having a sibling and for me to experience it again

sadly it hasn’t worked and although I am sad for the baby we have lost - I feel mentally that I need to come to terms with that we won’t be trying again

im not sure what the point of my post is - just trying to get my head around how things have worked out ( I know hormones are still raging at the moment)

in a way I wish we didn’t try again so we wouldn’t have disappointment - but I am also trying to remind myself of how lucky I am and what a beautiful life I do and can continue to have

I feel for anyone who is struggling with infertility, loss and everything else that comes with it - it is so hard x

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Janefx40 · 10/01/2025 00:46

@Whattodo1235 I'm so sorry for your loss. It is heartbreaking. I went through something similar trying for my second. Give yourself time to grieve both the baby themselves and the life you thought your family would have. There is support out there if you want it. I found the
Miscarriage association helpful.

We were lucky that things worked out for us eventually but for me I felt that if it didn't work, the purpose was to know we had tried.

Sending lots of love. Be kind to yourself xxx

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