*TRIGGER WARNING* I need to talk about miscarriage at 11 weeks

[Sophster92]

Hi everyone I hope you had a good Christmas. Mine wasn't that great and I don't really know what I'm looking for on here other than to rant and rage about my experience of a miscarriage as I feel that not enough information is given other than "if you.bleed through a pad every 15 minutes to go to hospital " please stop reading from now if you sent want to read graphic content.

This is probably going to be a long one so thank you if you read it all.
I started spotting around 16th December. Started as very light pink spotting after sex with my partner. It did not stop. It varied in colour from light pink to dark pink and brown. I was told by medical professionals to just watch and wait and it was probably due to sex. By christmas eve I was getting cramps and by then I feared it was worse than just some spotting. Christmas day came and I had hardly any blood and no cramping so enjoyed the day until around 7pm when the cramps started again.
By half past 8, I was cramping heavily and went upstairs to the bathroom when out of nowhere a gush of blood and tissues came pouring out of me on the toilet. I had blood running down my legs, on the floor. I soaked towels through. I decided to then go shower but it just kept coming with then what felt like mild contractions and I was pushing the contents out of me. I decided then it was time to call 111 who then sent an ambulance out for me. I was still expelling blood and tissues and had to walk down the stairs wrapped in a towel as I was bleeding through pads and trousers within minutes. I was blue lighted to hospital where I eventually after around 6 or so hours expelled most. I lost around 1 liter of blood and was near to having blood transufions and an operation. They never informed me if this miscarriage was a normal experience or not as what you read online is that you may have heavy period type bleeding but this was more like a murder scene. I am beyond devastated that I lost my baby, and I am traumatised by this experience. Since the miscarriage I have been so tired and experiencing a pulse in my ears due to how much blood I lost. I am now experiencing more cramps, vomiting and diarrhea amd unsure if this is normal or not.
I'm not 100% sure what I want to achieve by this post other than share my experience with you all and find out if this was a standard miscarriage or something more than that? Sorry for the graphic content. I just can't get it out of my head.
Thank you reading amd I wish you a happy new year.

Hello, I am so sorry that you have experienced this. Do you know the name of the medicine they gave you in hospital to stop the bleeding? Some have the exact side effects you’re describing. If your bleeding starts again or you begin to feel worse I’m afraid you should go back in for monitoring. I really am so sorry for your loss a no d that you’re experiencing this right now x

I'm sorry, i don't have any experience of miscarriage at this stage (my miscarriages were all earlier and medically managed or D&C), but I wanted to tell you that I'm so sorry for your loss and the huge trial that you've just been through. I can imagine your shock and fear, but somehow we do what we need to do and get through it in the moment. I hope you are home soon (or perhaps you already are) and able to rest and take the time that you need to recover both mentally and physically xxx

@Bumblebee413 I was only given fluids, anti biotics as was showing signs of infection and morphine for pain. I expelled everything on my own. I am still bleeding but not that heavy. More like a normal period. Currently cramping. If this continues I will go back to hospital. I have open access until next Wednesday so can go without being referred. Thank you for your response :)

On the 4th December I started spotting (I've bled on all 3 of my pregnancies so wasn't worried about my 4th). 5th December still spotting, cramps and lower back ache and bleeding. 6th December is when the same was happening but more intense but back ache eased. I passed a small clot then a big clot size of the palm of my hand (traumatising but i took a photo). I knew there and then I had miscarried and was distraught but accepted it. Within a hour or two the pain (labour pains and contractions) started and were getting intense. I was passing loads of blood and tissue. This went on for about 5 hours. Told my partner je needs to have our 1 year old as I'm in pain. Spent those 5 hours in a hot bath as I was in so much pain. It did settle in the end enough for me to fall asleep as exhausted. Next few days I had intense uterine cramps. I bled for a further 3 weeks. Stopped on Boxing Day. Absolutely heartbreaking and traumatising. The clots, the tissue, the bleeding. I probably should of gone hospital for my bleeding but I was just in too much pain and thought it should ease. I didn't want to bother anyone or disturb my kids. I was also in shock. I am emotionally drained. I was in a minor car accident in November so always wonder if it's because of that. I tested positive 15th October. Crazy enough is baby loss awareness week. Sending my love as my experience sounds similar to yours and I'm scarred by it.

I had a similar experience with my first miscarriage. Unfortunately after many hours of bleeding at home I went to hospital and after another few hours of cramping and blood loss they told me that that everything was stuck behind my cervix so I was taken down for surgery. It was utterly barbaric and far from what I was told to expect. I just wasn’t taken seriously at all. The after effects; not least the trauma lasted for a long time.
After another mc a few months later I was pregnant again and thankfully did go on to have a beautiful baby girl. There needs to be more recognition of what some women experience. No one should ever have to go through such a horrific time. My heart goes out to you and I hope that you can move on and try again. X

I’m so sorry you went through this and hope you have healed somewhat since it all happened ❤️. I just came on to say I had a missed miscarriage and found out at just over 11 weeks. Baby was measured at 8+4. I was told to expect a heavy period too. I have heavy periods in which I soak through super tampons in an hour. What I experienced was NOT a heavy period. I couldn’t leave the toilet as was pouring out with big clots the size of sausages. I eventually had to go to a&e as I couldn’t stand and felt I was going to pass out. My blood tests showed I had dramatically dropped HB levels and was right to go in. When I saw the gynaecologist he told me it would never have been like a heavy period as my body thought I was pregnant until over 11 weeks so there was a lot more tissue. He pulled a very large clot from me and agreed it was very big. I am currently anaemic and look sooo pale aswell as feeling so exhausted. I’m on iron tablets to get my levels back up now. Not sure anything would have made it better tbh but maybe would have been better for them to have been more realistic with how much bleeding there would be as reading online so many have had similar experiences and been almost brushed off, being told it’s just like a heavy period when in reality it was so much worse and caused alot of panic when it wasn’t expected. I still have retained tissue so I am now worried about that but hoping it clears like they say it should but who knows! Xx