3 Miscarriages in 11 months

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Thanks for reading, I don't know why I'm here but just had to get this out. Any similar success stories would be greatly appreciated.

I'm 38 with no children, I came off contraception in November 2023 and without actively trying we have fallen pregnant quickly 3 times but each one has ended as a missed miscarriage.

First one over the moon, positive test in January and slight pregnancy symptoms, 6 weeks scan with yolk sack then 8 week scan clear baby and strong heartbeat. Week 10 I started bleeding, scan confirmed no heartbeat and baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. I had surgical management in March.

Second pregnancy positive test in May, started off with a massive bleed around the time of period, strong pregnancy symptoms, strong positive tests and dye stealers. 6 week scan yolk sack, 8 week scan measuring small, slow heartbeat, 9 week scan no growth and heartbeat stopped. I had surgical management in July.

Third pregnancy positive test October, I had been taking Procieve Max and decided to take 75mg aspirin. I was extremely sick and diagnosed with hyperemesis gravidarum, pregnancy tests strong with dye stealers. At 6 week scan I could see the baby and heartbeat, I felt so happy and positive as I had never had that at 6 week scan before. They given me progesterone pessaries but didn't advise me on the aspirin. I stopped aspirin as I was really dizzy with it and was worried using it. I wish I never stopped it as I went back for 9 week scan and baby's heartbeat had stopped and they stopped growing at 7/8 weeks. We were devastated. I just had surgical management last week.

I feel so lost and I feel everyone is giving me different information. GP said I would automatically be referred to Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic 6 months wait. EPU also said 6 month wait. The doctor who did my surgery said she will now take my case and try to help me, so once the genetic testing results come back she will discuss a plan but there is a waiting list. The doctor was very reassuring but the wait is long, she works from Queen Elizabeth Glasgow. Does anyone have any advise on private options in Glasgow? I just feel like the NHS wait is too long, I will be 39 in July.

I just feel lost and losing hope that I will ever have a baby. My partner has 2 grown up children so it is different for him. I really had hope that I would be a mother but I feel like this year has taken all my hope away.

When I lost this one the nurse at EPU had said off the record to use baby aspirin next time, I wish I didn't stop. Does anyone know how to get round the dizzy feeling from taking aspirin if you are sensitive?

Sorry I am rambling on and on but I just need to get this out, I don't know what to do now. I want to wait to recover but I also don't feel I have time. I also want to get tests but the waiting list is so long. I also don't want to go back on any contraception as I want to keep my body free from fake hormones.

Are there any success stories out there similar to this? I just don't know what to do any more. Thanks to anyone who reads this, sorry it is so long xxx

So sorry you've been through this :( I lost three over the course of two years. The one that stuck I was on high dose vitamin D, progesterone and aspirin (progesterone from 3dpo and aspirin from 10 weeks). I don't know what the magic combo was that helped my daughter stick around or whether it was just luck but I finally got her so don't give up!

I was in a group on here with lots of other ladies some of whom were on three or more miscarriages and all bar two ended up with babies.

I really hope you get your miracle too :)

Thanks for reply @TheBirdintheCave I really appreciate your message. I'm sorry for your losses but so happy you got your daughter ❤that gives me hope. I wish I had persevered with this aspirin this time.

That gives me hope with the others too, is that group still active?

Thank you for your well wishes, I'm praying for my miracle xxx

Hi, I am really sorry to hear what an awful year you have had. It’s so hard this time of year.

I also live in Glasgow and had three miscarriages in 2022. I didn’t find Queen Elizabeth hospital or Glasgow royal particularly helpful. I was on the waiting list for the recurrent miscarriage clinic but ended up seeing a doctor who is now retired at the RAH. I had a scan of my uterus to check for abnormalities and bloods to check for lupus anticoagulant. I asked my GP to do vitamin D and thyroid function. All my tests were normal.

GCRM will do some testing privately but they encouraged me to get as much done on the nhs as possible as it is very expensive.

I was desperate to be referred to Tommy’s clinic but the Glasgow health board said no. I was really upset but I was offered progesterone for my next pregnancy but the doctor I saw in paisley.

I spent Christmas 2022 in tears, however in January got a positive test. Started progesterone and somehow it worked out and I had a baby in September. I am now pregnant again without having miscarriages in between.

I wasn’t prepared to wait to try again so I was always tracking etc. I took proceive supplements and only drank decaf tea.

I think it is important to remember that even though it seems hopeless your fortune can change very quickly. Even after 3 miscarriages you are still more likely to have a baby than not.
I really hope you get good news soon x

Thanks so much for your message @Laurabeee I'm reading these through tears of hope and thankful for the replies. You have been through it too. I'm so sorry for your losses but so happy you had your baby and congrats for your baby on the way ❤

I feel the same I have been dealing with the Royal and now waiting to be seen by Queen Elizabeth, I don't know how they are but the Royal has not given me any hope in my care for future pregnancies.

Have you been cared for more closely with your 2 successful pregnancies? That is my worry.

I feel how you felt this Christmas, I cried putting my Christmas tree up today. I thought I would be pregnant doing it.

Thanks for your positive words. Last week I didn't know if I could try again but this week I feel like I want to. I think I might take up your advise on the decaf and start taking procieve again.

Thanks for your well wishes xxx

Sorry to jump on but I'm going through the same thing at the moment. How soon did you get prescribed the progesterone after finding out you were pregnant? Was it as soon as you took the test? I keep losing at 5-6 weeks so I'm conscious that i have very little time between positive test and getting GP appt and starting pg...

Sorry to hear you are going through the same @Art3m1s I'm here for you, its such a dark place but the hopeful stories on mumsnet have been a comfort. I was prescribed progesterone this time at 6 weeks. Next time I will be contacting EPU as soon as I have a positive test and fight for it if I have to. I've read on Mumsnet that Tommy's can assist with this after multiple miscarriages too. Hope you're doing ok and praying we both get our miracles soon xxx

I was also delayed a week getting progesterone too as the prescription had to go through a triage system then the chemist didn't stock it, it really is poor treatment at times for pregnant women especially in first trimester when it's the crucial months

I had a discussion with my gp in advance of trying again and had a sort of agreement that as soon as I let them know I was pregnant they would issue the prescription for progesterone. I think it helps to know that the help will be there when you need it. Tommys have an info sheet you can take to your GP to explain the potential benefit of progesterone.

GRI EPU say they will only give progesterone if you are bleeding but I really don’t see the point of that as it has already gone wrong. I also didn’t think they would help much with future pregnancies and early scans etc.

I did have extra support in my next pregnancies with 2 scans before the the 12 week scan. It really helped me through that time.

I really hope you enjoy Christmas time. Things can change fast and next Christmas maybe very different.