Why isn't the hurt easing the flashbacks etc.. I had to have a d&c on the 5th October as i had a silent miscarriage at 10 weeks. This was our 4th baby and we were so looking forward to starting over again and having a new blessing to love everything felt so perfect & complete i am 37 my husband 42 i am still heartbroken and everyday is hard just small job's around the house that i did while pg remind me of when my baby was with me and it really hurts my heart we are really on the fence too whether to try again due to our ages and having 3 older children but i cant help but feel there will always be this missing peice now.Also my social circle all seem to think it was for the best we should be past that stage of life now planning ahead without little children ties why dont i feel this way why does my heart want to fill that now huge space so much