My partner makes me feel bad for moaning over our baby .

[Exy]

Me and my partner have recently had a miscarriage, however the same week his under aged daughter has got pregnant and with her being a single mum to be obviously needs alot of support that I understand.

My partner daughter is still in her late teens im in my early twenty and I can remember being her age and she has so much to learn and I get that and love the fact partner offerec this.

However everytime I get upset over our miscarriage it's nit fair partners daughter apparently according partner.

I dont know if this me being selfish but I just want support as I'm giving it back all the time .

I’m so sorry for your loss. It isn’t you being selfish and, having suffered mc myself, I’m appalled your ‘D’P isn’t supporting you at this difficult time, which is being made doubly difficult when his DD is now pregnant and he is ignoring your loss.
If you don’t have support irl, please contact Tommy’s.

www.tommys.org/baby-loss-support?gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADojyfYV2X-UzD9v-xj39esJ8hzYG&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI1IOf28OVigMVIaVQBh3nXQCIEAAYASACEgKddfD_BwE

Thank you do much I thought i was going crazy tbh and tha you fir the link

So your partner is going to be a grandad and is looking to be a dad again simultaneously?
Sorry for your loss. But I would run. Wouldn’t want to be a step granny at your age.

Your boyfriend doesn't want any more children.

Your boyfriend doesn't care about your happiness.

You need to sit and think about this for a bit, and decide what to do.

(I mean, also, eugh creepy guy getting with someone young enough to be his daughter, but that obviously doesn't bother you)

When you say late teens, but also under age, what age do you mean? Because I would normally say 18-19 is late teens. I'm sorry for your loss and understand your pain. Ultimately she's already pregnant and it sounds like she's decided to go ahead with the pregnancy so her dad is doing the right thing by supporting her - what else can he do?

Do you really want to be with a grandad when you're in your early twenties? I suspect your partner wasn't exactly heartbroken about the miscarriage. Men don't usually want babies like women do and certainly not when they're getting older. It's a bit creepy he's with a woman about the same age as his daughter anyway.

Yeah the age difference has nether bothered until know as we had simular aspirations and at first we really bounced off each other motivation to build a life toghter.

However I feel with me wanting a baby it may be an issues with him, Evan though at first he was really kean for me to get pregnant.

So if you try again and have a baby his grandchild will be older than his child?

You want a baby and…he’s just going along with it for you?

He cares more for his grandchild than the child with you. Find someone else to have a baby with. Someone who wants a baby as much as you preferably.

I'm sorry for the loss of your baby, OP.

I can't help but think that in the long term you're more likely to have the happy family life you want if you have children with a man who is closer to your own age and hasn't already done it all before.