Emotions after D&C / Missed Miscarriage

[Bumblebee99]

Unfortunately had my first miscarriage which ended in a D&C on Wednesday. As it was a missed miscarriage, we had known for a couple of weeks the baby had passed and it was incredibly tough however, I came to terms with it and looking forward to the pregancy being over and losing my symptoms (sickness, nausea etc). Yesterday (24hrs after D&C) I have felt the lowest and most upset I think I’ve ever felt in my life. The tears are like a tap I can’t turn off. I feel like I’m either staring in to space or crying. This is hugely unlike me, I like to think I’m very strong emotionally but this is next level! I also can’t stop replaying everything in my head from surgery day, it went well but obviously deep down I found the process quite traumatic, I can’t get it out my head.
Can anyone please just tell me if these feelings are normal and valid? Do I need help? Is it just the huge hormone drop and the effect of general anesthetic? Will it get better?
It’s like an out of body experience and I don’t know how to get out… Thank you all in advance ❤️

How you feel is so normal, I’m so sorry it’s absolutely devastating, it takes all your hope.
I did call the miscarriage association and howled down the phone to this wonderful lady who really held me, I had so much grief and pain. I would recommend calling them.
The pain does get easier with time, but give yourself the chance to grieve. So sorry sweetheart.

Hi @Bumblebee99 im so sorry for your loss but just want you to know that I was exactly the same the day after my MVA for a MMC last week, I was a mess. I couldn’t stop crying, I was so upset/emotional and this was completely different to how I usually am and was before the MVA (I was obviously devastated but was able to function!) I think it was the drop in hormones as after about 48 hours, I slowly started to feel better and now I am 10 days down the line I am mostly ok (still have ups and downs but not like last week). In addition to hormones, don’t forget you’ve had a very traumatic experience and it will take time to get over that too. Like you, I was happy that my nausea/vomiting/metallic taste settled and am focusing on that for now and being able to enjoy food again. Sending you lots of love ❤️

I’m really sorry for you loss. It’s definitely the hormones- the drop is horrendous. I don’t think I’d ever felt quite so sad…it’s does get easier tho so hold on.

So normal to feel this way, you’re still in the thick of it, take your time and be kind to yourself.
It won’t always feel this horrid xx

I hope you've had times of it feeling easier today
Just wanted you to know you're not alone, and I've been feeling the same the last few days about my MMC 3 weeks ago... good hours and bad hours.

Time and love is the biggest healer. Go easy on yourself.