3rd miscarriage

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Long time lurker I’ve never posted before but have found these boards so helpful and hoping that someone might have some reassurance to offer. I’ve just found out that I’ve had another mmc.
I’ve been pregnant 3 times this year. I’ve just turned 38.

First pregnancy was in the spring and I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks. I fell pregnant immediately afterwards and at 7 weeks found out it was twins. Had a normal 9 week scan and then at the 12 week scan both hearts had stopped. My symptoms had eased a little the week before but that was the only sign. I was devastated and then had medical management which failed, then surgical which failed and then a month later a second procedure. It was an awful summer.

October half term I found out I was pregnant again. I felt very ambivalent the whole time, not wanting to get my hopes up/get too attached. I had a scan at 6w5 which showed a heartbeat. I started taking cyclogest a week later as advised by the EPU. The progesterone gave me a terrible UTI and on Sunday I started passing blood in my urine. I got antibiotics and went for a scan today. They told me there’s no heartbeat anymore, that it likely stopped this weekend according to size.

I feel so sad and angry and upset. I will have to have another procedure. I just feel like giving up. That it’ll never happen and it’s too late now.

Can anyone help?

Hi lovely. I am so very sorry this is happening to you. It really sucks! Now that this has happened to you 3 times, perhaps it's time your doctor referred you for fertility tests? You obviously have no problem getting pregnant, it's just getting them to stick. 😢

I have just had my second loss this year. One natural miscarriage in June and a missed one that I've just had surgical management for a week ago today. It's such an awful thing to go through. I am 40 in March. I am going to give it one last try over the next 5 months and see if it happens for us.

Hopefully you will get lucky if you decide to try again and the next one will stick. 🍀 xx

So so sorry to hear this. Sending you a virtual hug and handhold. I don’t have much advice, but can relate a bit. I had 4 consecutive miscarriages before we had our 3 children. None had made it beyond 6ish weeks though so we’d not seen heartbeats. I did go the recurrent miscarriage route (my 4th miscarriage happened just as I started treatment). I did a whole host of vitamins and then intralipids once I was pregnant. I do feel like the vitamins helped as suddenly I wasn’t getting pregnant as easily but then when I did, it ‘stuck’. With the intralipids, in hindsight, I’m not so sure. Here’s a list of my vitamins and things I did which I felt actually helped in case you’re curious:

Eliminated caffeine for 2 months prior
*Pre-seed

• Acupuncture sessions weekly for 6+ weeks More water Ubiquinol (3.5 months) NAC (3.5 months) vitamin b6 (+3 months) folate (+3 months) Vit A, E, Selenium (about 3 months)

I'm so sorry for your losses.
I've also had 3MCs (37-38) if you are worried about your age and can afford it, go privately for some tests - in my case they didn't find anything, but who knows.
And at the same time ask your GP for a referral to the recurrent miscarriage clinic they will also perform some tests but most importantly they will help you on your following preganancy (scans, progresterone, etc).

I wish you all the best.