Hi everyone,
We found yesterday our 14 week baby has multiple issues from a suspected chromosome issue and we will need to end the pregnancy next week. Obviously we are devastated.
I already have an amazing 18 month old daughter who was well aware that I was pregnant (stroking tummy saying 'baby', holding her baby doll over my belly, pointing to preg woman picture and saying 'mimi' - her name for me). I don't want to do her the disservice of ignoring what is happening and not acknowledging it all with her - but how can I tell her that her sister has died in a way that is developmentally appropriate?
I can't find any books online which are suitable. Can anyone please recommend something suitable for this age which:
- relates to pregnancy loss (not about death of a baby before my toddler came, but death of a baby afterwards)
- does not only focus on loss of a grandparent or a pet
- is not complicated or wordy or long
I'd be ever so grateful. If anyone has any tips on how to appropriately include our little girl in this pregnancy loss from those with experience, I would be so grateful. This is horrific to navigate at the moment.
Thank you xx