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Misscarriage Failed medical management

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TTCFC91 · 01/12/2024 10:10

I need to rant because I am so upset, confused and traumatised by what happened me this week.
We found out that I was pregnant in July. In September I was 9 weeks pregnant and went for a routine scan and we were told I would lose our baby in the next week. The baby died in the next week. I was offered medical management, surgery or pass it naturally. I chose medical management. 3 weeks later I had to do a pregnancy test at home.It was still positive. I had to go back for another scan . I found out it was still positive because I didn't pass all of it. I was given option of medical management or surgery but was told if medical management didn't work this time I'd need surgery. 3 weeks later I had to take another pregnancy test at home. It was negative. I started to live my life again as normal as I could. I'd no bleeding and no pain.
3 months later I am in hospital after an emergency D&C.
On Tuesday I started bleeding and it wouldn't stop. I was working. I am a teacher. I had to scream for help. Blood poured out of me. It filled my boots, poured through my pants onto the floor. No matter what I did it wouldn't stop. It looked like a murder scene from a movie. Colleagues had to help me. A GP called. First responders called. These men told me that they think it's probably a heavy period seeing as it's my first period since misscarrying. I was passing clots the size of my fist. An ambulance had to be called. I was an hour from the hospital and they were going to take over an hour to even get to me. My husband had to take the decision to drive me up to the hospital instead of waiting. I had to sit on bin liners and tea towels as I was still bleeding. A scan couldn't be done at night. I had a scan the following morning and they confirmed I needed a D and C. I was told a doctor would fill me in on results of scan. 3 hours later and no sign of doctor.
3 hours later and I started uncontrollabley bleeding, 7 doctors gathered around me and decided I needed an emergency D and C straight away. I thought I was dying, so did my husband. There was so much blood and it wasn't stopping. I had to be put to sleep and the surgery happened. I lost 1 litre of blood during the surgery alone. I'm so upset, so cross, I feel so let down, confused. Etc. I'm starting therapy next week. I followed all the guidelines I was told to follow. How in Ireland in 2024 was I not checked up on after second round of medical management? How in Ireland in 2024 can doctors tell me that they think that much blood is just a heavy period? How in Ireland in 2024 are women not being looked after?

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Longrider · 01/12/2024 11:07

I don’t know the answers to your questions but I am so sorry this happened to you.
Did they explain why it happened and what went wrong?

TTCFC91 · 01/12/2024 11:14

'I was just one of the unlucky ones'

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OneDayHope · 01/12/2024 12:55

I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this. My first mc I had mm which I thought had worked, negative tests eventually but then started bleeding couple of months after, initially assumed hurrah period finally returned but when the bleeding didn’t stop they scanned me and it turned out I needed surgery asap. That in itself was traumatic but to go through the amount of bleeding you’ve had is horrendous. I had a second mc (natural) in the summer, I rang hospital and they again did the whole test and if it’s negative you’re ok, I had to stress how important a scan was because of last time so they did and pregnancy tissue still there so mm given, told again test and if it‘s negative all good, had to argue once again I needed a scan to be sure, finally they did and surprise surprise pregnancy tissue remained so surgery asap.

You shouldn’t have had to endure what you did, facing all of that on top of losing your baby is a hell of a lot to deal with, I hope the therapy helps, take care of yourself x

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