Why is life so unfair

[MissScotland17]

I’ve had 3 early losses, between February 2023 & April 2024.

We fell pregnant again in July and was hoping this was our time.
I’d been taking all my supplements, I got started on progesterone.
I’d been doing everything I possibly could to give us the best chance.

Unfortunately, we then got our screening results back last month which gave us very high chance results for baby having Edwards or Pataus.
I also had really low Papp a so got started on aspirin and put under care of the consultant.

We seen him 3 weeks ago yesterday and all was fine, seen him again yesterday (19 weeks)and knew straight away from the look on his face it wasn’t good news.

The heart had stopped beating, likely around 2 weeks ago.

We are completely heartbroken and wondering why this world is so bloody unfair.

Back in tomorrow(Sunday) to have labour induced so I can deliver.

They will then be able to do a post mortem and I’m hoping having some answers will give us some clarity.

We’ll also then need to contact a funeral director next week to organise cremation.

I just can’t believe we’re here. Sunday really is going to be the toughest day ever.

So sorry to read your story - that sounds really horrible for you. I don't have any experience or wise words but sending hugs and hope you get the love and support you will from family and partner

I'm so so sorry lovely. Sending you so much love.

I was exactly where you are 18 months ago. I would gently encourage you to pack an overnight bag just in case, for me it took a couple of days for my body to understand that it was time.

The pain never truly goes away but I promise you do learn to carry it with you in a way that makes it more bearable.

In time, look at Petals Charity- they provide baby loss counselling. I think I'd be in a very different place without their support and guidance.

Sending all the love in the world xxxxxx

I’m so sorry @MissScotland17 . A very similar story in my family, three losses then a pregnancy that gives hope but ends with Patau Syndrome and a funeral.

Those parents went on to have two perfect children.

In your deepest grief and despair please don’t give up hope.

I’m so sorry for your loss. @MissScotland17 and for what you have had to go through. I had three 10-11 week losses, and then lost our son at 17 weeks so I have some sense of the heartbreak, disbelief and unfairness you are likely feeling. I hope Sunday goes ok for you. Sending love.

I didn’t feel like life was worth living at times but I carried on putting one foot in front of the other and eventually it got easier. Whatever happens, my advice is to try to still find the small moments of joy. Do things that make you happy, even if you don’t feel like it.

I am never sure if others positive stories help but in case it does, I did go on to have two healthy children, and both pregnancies were fine although I was high risk and on progesterone, blood thinners and aspirin. Our local recurrent miscarriage unit was a great source of support, both practical and emotional.

Thank you.

Yes, I’ve been told to take an overnight bag as will definitely be there Sunday night and potentially Monday x

So very very sorry to hear this. Life can be very cruel. Good luck for tomorrow. Take all the support you can. Big hugs xx

I’m so sorry that’s so unfair. Sending peace and love to you and your family. Look after yourself.

So sorry. The way i think about it - it’s a miracle a random combination of random dna is viable in the first place. It’s nature’s way of screening out the unviable ones in the first instance. Have strength.

I'm so sorry. I can't imagine how tough this must be for you both. Sending love ❤️ x