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Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

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sorry probably tmi but would have some questions about discharge

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BillyElliot · 28/04/2008 22:55

hi, started to miscarry on saturday v. early only 4 or 5 weeks but just passed a couple of large clots about 1.5 cm long. was this the sac? or did i miscarry too early. sorry if this is tmi but i am fairly upset.

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Furball · 29/04/2008 07:05

you poor thing - don't know the answer to your question but didn't want your thread to go un-noticed.

Hopefully there'll be someone with some info for you soon.

am so sorry

windygalestoday · 29/04/2008 07:07

you poor thing xx my mc was later and quite a lot heavier but im bumping this so someone who knows more can help you -hope you are ok x

belgo · 29/04/2008 07:17

Yes it could have been the sac and the start of the placenta. It is early, but then everything starts to develop from conception so by 4 /5 weeks there is something there. In one of my pregnancies they saw a sac during the scan and put the pregnant at 4/5 weeks. I miscarried as well.
Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Look after yourself.

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BillyElliot · 29/04/2008 07:35

thanks everyone, mumsnet is fabulous for this sort of thing.

i was coping admirably but this has completely thrown me.

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belgo · 29/04/2008 09:52

Make sure you rest plenty and give yourself time to grieve. It does take a while, especially as your hormones will be all over the place.

TheSlightestTeuch · 29/04/2008 09:56

Hi BE, sorry you are going through this. It truly is the pits. If you are at all worried, you should go for a scan to make sure you have passed everything.

I have no idea, since I mc about 8-9 weeks but only detected at over 11wks so had erpc.

The 'coping' comes in peaks and troughs ,I found. Give yourself time.

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BillyElliot · 29/04/2008 10:06

i am in bits, just phoned my boss and greeted down the phone, he sounded really embarrassed!

i think i was kidding myself it was no different from having my period, seeing the sac was a complete shock.

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belgo · 29/04/2008 10:08

I was also told for my first miscarriage to expect nothing more then heavy bleeding and maybe some clots. It was also a shock to see the embryo, gosh I'm remembering it now.

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BillyElliot · 29/04/2008 10:16

sorry belgo, but it is good hear from other folk. poor dh had me shreiking from teh bathroom adn then had to hold it while we tried to decide what it was and what to do.

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belgo · 29/04/2008 10:18

What did you do with it?

My dh and my children were out of the house when it happened, which was probably just as well.

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BillyElliot · 29/04/2008 10:20

flushed it down the loo, i was completely panicked and dh was starting to look v. upset.

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belgo · 29/04/2008 10:22

Many women experience miscarriage but not many of us really talk about it, which is why you don't know what to expect when it happens and it is a shock when it happens. Especially when people say to just expect a heavy period. It's a lot more then that, physically and emotionally an awful lot more.

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BillyElliot · 29/04/2008 10:23

that is why mumsnet is soo great. thanks again belgo.

how are you teuch?

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TheSlightestTeuch · 29/04/2008 10:38

I'm okay, thanks - just trying to ignore things for a while longer!

solo · 29/04/2008 10:52

I was in the shower when I lost my second(mc) and half of it went down the plug hole and the other half down the loo...it was, if I recall rightly, a bit like egg white and thick bloody mass...very upsetting. I was about 6 weeks. Hope you are ok BE.

windygalestoday · 30/04/2008 20:02

i lost min in asda toilets and it just was a simple cramp and then lots of blood and small sac with thick goo and a bent curved piece of gristle and i cry as i type this i picked it out and wanted to bring it home and acknowledge it was here but suddenly i dont know why i dropped it bck in and flushed the chain -to this day i regret doing that.

mrsmaddyd · 30/04/2008 20:24

So sorry for you all, its such an awfull awfull thing. This thread has made me cry as has corrie, brought back terrible memories.

Miscarriage is so common but not talked about enough.My first i bled heavily for days and contracted i passed out on Ed floor there was so much blood and clots etc. i was sure that time the baby was on Ed floor but a scan next morning showed her still there but no heart beat. So had to have a D&C. The hospital chaplin held services for lost babies under the 24 week date as still classed as an mc even though fully formed baby.
My six week mc was no easier and mine went down the toilet aswell and i felt deeply ashamed.

What helped me was buying a rose. I have two memory roses.

Its 2 years on now since my losses and i still suffer. Waves are how id describe it. All fine one min then knocked off feet with a wave

Hope you get all the help you need physically and especially emotionally. Take care xxxx

windygalestoday · 30/04/2008 21:46

i have a stone angel in my garden me and dh know what it represents its not something we upset the children with when it happened and noone else knew really..

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