Am I a mum?

[midlandsdogwalker]

I had three miscarriages and now can’t have children.

a big part of the life I hoped to have is missing and now I know I will never have children, I’m even thinking I can’t call myself a mum.

I’m sorry for your losses x

I had a loss and don’t consider myself a mum but I think it is something very personal.

OP you are mum to the three little souls you lost so yes of course you can say that. I cannot imagine how you feel nor would I even try.
is it an absolute no, as in no ivf either or do you think there might still be options to explore. Sorry if that’s prying.
sending love x

I am so sorry for your losses.
Of course, it's personal. But- you created life. You gave your body over in hopefulness to nurture and grow those lives. You loved, nourished and protected those babies. Whatever happened later, this sounds like Motherhood to me.

I'm sorry you have suffered miscarrying your 3 babies, they will be part of you always xxx

You are a mother of three. Your children are not with you in body but their souls are always with you.

I managed to have one child but lost two. I've never hesitated to think of myself as a mum of three. My other two are waiting for me on the other side. It certainly doesn't make me or anyone else disqualify. I named them, I love them and I wait. A mother cares, a mother grieves, a mother waits to be reunited.

I’m including this in case it might give you some measure of peace. I applied for both of mine a few days ago, I’m glad this service is now available. It's not for everyone but on the off chance it might help you ❤️

www.gov.uk/request-baby-loss-certificate

Thank you all for your positive messages of love and support for my situation.

My husband has said he doesn’t want children so that is why I won’t be having any more.

My doctor thinks we are ‘genetically incompatible and could have ivf by donor but only if my husband agrees, which he will
not.

It has made me so glad to think that I am a mum to my three who left me too soon and should there be a reunion for us, I will be so grateful for the hope you have given me by your words of love and encouragement.

Bless you all for providing me with that affirmation.

I'm sure it will sound mad, but I have been pregnant 4 times and have only one living child. I have had 3 dogs, and I like to think that they have my lost babies souls so they are with me whilst I have my dogs. I know my dogs will pass far sooner than I would like but at least I have had some time on earth with them and after they pass I hope we will be together again in some way. It comforts me. Never thought I would consider reincarnation!