Currently going through 4th loss, loosing hope

[Steffi12]

Hi all,

I’m hopefully looking for some success stories and advice of anyone who’s been through similar.
Currently suffering my 4th loss in 2yrs and really starting to loose hope. I seem to loose the babies all at around 6 weeks. 3 have been MMCs and 1 natural MC at 6 weeks
This most recent pregnancy I had an NHS scan at 6 weeks due to my a history. This showed a baby measuring 6w1d so right on track and had a heartbeat- something we’d never seen before so gave us hope. I wasn’t scheduled to have any more scans on the NHS before my dating one so booked private as couldn’t wait that long. The scan yesterday I should have been just under 8weeks. And yet it showed our baby still measuring 6w1d with no heartbeat, meaning they must have died just after the first scan 💔 I should add I had a very sympathetic GP this time around who prescribed progesterone from positive test and 5mg folic acid, sadly looks like it made no difference

I need to contact my EPU tomorrow to sort more appointments and scans and probable treatment. I’m just feeling at such a loss. Do I need to accept this isn’t on the cards for us? There must be a reason to keep loosing them at the same stage.

I have private healthcare through work so I think in the new year I will look into that as a final roll of the dice. I keep reading about NK killer cells? Is this some thing I should be asking about?

I did have an NHS miscarriage clinic referral but found out I was pregnant 2 weeks after the appointment. I did end up having some blood tests which were normal. I was pregnant at the time but they said to have them anyway but may alter the results but have come back normal. But when finding out I was pregnant this time it was just like ‘good luck’ and got no support except that early scan. So not sure how much faith I have in the NHS system currently.

Thanks for reading x

I am so sorry OP. So upsettimg. Definitely see if you can use your private insurance for investigations for recurrent miscarriages and a discussion about fertility treatments l, really good idea xx

@Whatatodo79 thank you so much for your kind words ❤️ I am at a total loss and with no living children, along with grieving my losses I feel like I’m starting to grieve the life I thought we’d have. I think I will try to go private as I’d regret it if I didn’t, just not sure how much more I can take 😓 xx

It is so hard. I am really sorry for your losses. I think it would be ideal to get the key recurrent miscarriage bloods tests and a scan to make sure your uterus is normal. Definitely make sure your thyroid function is normal. The other thing that is very rare is to think about karotype testing. There is lots of uncertainty about natural killer cells and I can’t really comment as I never had any of that sort of testing.

I know it is so disheartening but please remember each time you become pregnant there is still a good chance of carrying that baby to term. I have known women have 8 miscarriages and then the next pregnancy they have a baby.

please don’t lose heart there is still lots that can be done.

@Laurabeee thank you so much for your reply❤️ I did have some bloods but I was 5 weeks pregnant at the time so unsure if they altered the results, although I haven’t heard back about my lupus result.
I do have a bicornate uterus but never really get any answers about it. I had been told it’s fairly
mild. Although this time at my first scan they said it looked like I had a small septum down the middle- I’d never been told this before and sounded a bit more serious. But they said they see plenty of women with the same who have healthy pregnancies, so I’m not sure if this is causing a problem or not

I have had my thyroid tested and been told it is normal. I haven’t read much into karotyping but I definitely will now! Thank you so much for all your ideas, I really do appreciate it❤️

And thank you so so much for your kind words and encouragement, wow 8💔
I hope this isn’t the end for us, I just feel a little hopeless currently 😓 x

@Steffi12 i am so sorry, it’s just heartbreaking. I’ve had 2 losses & fortunately got referred to a Tommys miscarriage clinic. I had some blood tests done & one was called cardiolipin antibodies. Have you had that one? As I recently found out from that that i might have APS syndrome after having an abnormal result, and treatment is aspirin & daily heparin injections

Hi @Figtree11
im so sorry to hear about your losses 😓 and sorry for the slow reply, I had my miscarriage confirmed at the EPU Monday and had the surgical management yesterday, it’s been a bit of a whirlwind.
Thank you so much for your advice. I have had that test just recently, as part of the miscarriage clinic I was under at the hospital. Although I was 5 weeks pregnant at the time so not sure if it was accurate. However, the hospital is sending this baby for cytogenetic testing testing which was sent with a vial of my blood too.
They did mention testing for APS again but I was technically pregnant so unsure again, I had so many questions yesterday it’s a bit of a blur! Im getting a call from the miscarriage clinic next week with a plan as I can’t go on like this😓 I just loose them at the same stage everytime so I feel there must be either something genetic or something wrong with my ability to carry.

Its heartbreaking but I’m glad you were able to get an answer and hope the treatment enables you to have a successful pregnancy❤️xx