Had a Miscarriage at 41 do I try again

[TinaUK]

Hi, So I had the horrible news that I had lost my baby I had just turned 8 weeks and I could not believe it. It passed naturally at home after having a scan and an internal scan at the hospital. I have a beautiful 5.5-year-old daughter so I feel fortunate but we wanted to have a sibling for her and for us. I am 41 years old and I am terrified of it happening again but after deciding for the last 3 years that we would and finally went ahead I just cant believe it. Has anyone else had this with a successful outcome after going again and being around my age? Just wanted to see if there were many in there 40's who has manged it?

I’m just going through a miscarriage now at 40. My little boy is nearly 2 and a half and we had fertility help with him so this pregnancy was a shock but we were so thrilled. I think we will try again in a Few months. There are a lot of older mummies now who have successfully gotten pregnant and had babies, if you want to try again you should ❤️

Thanks for your message sorry you are going through it to. I worry that the same will happen again. I was looking forward to telling my daughter she was going to be a sister we were going to do it just before Christmas but it wasn’t mean to be. I guess if I don’t try I will never know. I hope you are ok and coming with it all? Xxx

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage, I had one few weeks ago around 71/2 weeks, I'm 43 and have 2 older children. I also had 2 miscarriages before my daughter was born over 12 years ago. Like you I was so looking forward to telling my children at Christmas we were going to have a baby ☹️ We're going to try again after I've had a proper period. There are so many women who have had miscarriages in their 40's and then go on to have a healthy pregnancy so don't give up! Wishing you all the best ❤

Hi OP, I just wondered how things have moved on for you this year, are you still TTC? I've just turned 41 and have 2 DCs, aged 3 and a half and 8 months. I would love a third, I'm not tracking like a crazy person (this time!) I'm just planning to see what happens but wondering if I'm setting myself up for a bit of heartache. We've had 3 previous miscarriages at various points when trying to conceive the 2 DCs we have, so I'm not sure the odds are in my favour.

Hi, Well I found out I was 5 weeks pregnant in the May half term then two days later I lost it which in all fairness has not upset me as much as I thought it would. We have just got a puppy which has kept me very busy. Not sure if I am going to get tests done at the doctors or just try third time lucky. Someone on another post suggested I try Ovulation tests to see what they show as I know when I am ovulating but with hers she was secondary infertility and ended up having IFV. I spoke to a nurse and she said she was 42 when she had her second child but had to go through several miscarriages before having a heathly girl so its one of them. Age does make it harder but it can happen if not then I have a beautiful 6 year old girl who blows me away!

I had a miscarriage at 40 followed by a healthy pregnancy 3 cycles later. I had another one at 43 followed by a healthy pregnancy the very next cycle. They are now 5 and 7. Good luck to you x

That is lovely to hear and gives me hope it will happen. Life can be hard! How did you fiind having a baby at 43? I am shattered before I start lol. At 35 was hard enough

@TinaUKi don’t know any different! I guess it’s easier as my career, house etc was all well on the way. It’s a bit daunting to know I can’t retire early as I’ll need to support them for another 15+ years but I think there’s a lot to be said for being an older Mum

Hello, currently ttc aged just turned 42 after two miscarriages. I did end up going for tests privately and it was found to be an immune issue, having just assumed it was my age. The tests are very expensive, but may save you a lot of heartache if it turns out there is an underlying issue. Also recommend Carmen Mair’s instagram as there’s loads of helpful info there. Finally, check your supplements- turns out mine were not cutting it. Wishing you lots of good luck x

@TinaUK sorry to hear about your recent loss. It sounds like you're able to bear it to some degree. It's always a tough one. Aw enjoy your puppy! Wish you well with whatever happens next for you.

@ToddlerMumma glad it worked out for you. I also think I'm a bit more together as an older mum than I would have been when I was younger for sure!

Wishing other ladies in same boat as me on this thread good luck! 🍀

Hi just to add my story.

I had a MMC age 40, baby age 41, another MMC age 42 and now I’m 43 and I’m 24w pregnant with my second.

So it can definitely happen, but I have had losses along the way.

Wishing you all luck x

Just to wish you luck OP. I am sorry about your losses xx