Missed miscarriage when to TTC again

[Mamamia1992]

Hi,
Last night I had the devastating news I have had a missed miscarriage. I had some spotting in early pregnancy as I did with my first two (my first pregnancy was an early miscarriage around 5 weeks and my second pregnancy resulted in my lovely little boy who is almost 2).

With my successful pregnancy they gave me progesterone before they scanned me at 7 weeks which I then continued to 16weeks. This time they wouldn't give me progesterone until they saw it was viable, hence the early scans I've had.

It looks like this baby stopped growing at 6weeks and didn't develop a yolk sac.

I chose medical management and have taken the misoprostol internally.

The last time I miscarried I had one period in between and then got pregnant with my boy.

The Dr last night said I should wait 'a few months' to heal mentally and physically before trying but I really don't want to. Does anyone know if there is any medical reason I can't try sooner? Maybe would leftover misoprostol hurt the baby or make it more likely to misscarry again? Is there a huge internal injury for a 6 week miscarriage? Mentally I know I'll be ok, I know I'm so lucky to have my boy but I'll feel so much better if I have a clearer answer of when we can try again..

I just want another baby so badly I don't want to wait months and the age gap to grow even bigger from my boy. I'm happy to wait for one natural period between like last time

Sorry for the huge thread i just needed to get it all out!

Thanks so much if anyone reads this and has any advice

I'm in a similar situation and I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I had a long discussion with a midwife at the EPU about when to try again. She said that from a physical health perspective, you don't necessarily need to wait one cycle to try again, as long as you wait for a negative pregnancy test. The reason they prefer that is because if you get pregnant before you've had a period it can be harder to date the pregnancy - which can lead to lots of uncertainty and stress about whether it is a viable pregnancy or not.

When I first learnt that I had a MMC I was really keen to try again immediately but now I'm that I've had a period, I feel more torn - everything does still feel really raw emotionally and while we do plan to try this cycle, I also feel that it's important to feel positive and calm about trying again.

I'm in a similar situation in that I have a 2yo, who is now nearly 2.5yo. I feel so frustrated every time I see a family with a small age gap and feel anxious about how "big" the age gap will be if I do manage to get pregnant again. But I also think it's important for me to realize that I will be happy with any age gap if I'm able to have another. Fore, getting stressed about the age gap is just one way of indirectly expressing my grief and sadness about the miscarriage - so trying again to keep the age gap small enough won't actually make that go away, it might just pop up somewhere else instead.

Thank you so much @InvisibleDragon , im so sorry youve gone through the same thing. It's just the worst! I had a chat with a Tommys midwife who said the same thing about not being able to date it properly without a period in between can add a lot of stress so I'll definitely wait for at least one as well to be safe. Also apparently the endometrial lining being shed fully in between can make a more hospitable environment for the baby 💕
I might feel the same as you after a period as well, it's so raw emotionally isn't it. You're totally right about the age gap guilt being another form of grief for the baby that will never be 😞
Any age gap would be amazing and if anything might make childcare easier with a slightly larger one! (Trying desperately to find a positive)

Thanks so much again for your reply and best of luck with whenever you try again 💕💕 let me know how it goes xx

So sorry you’ve been through this. I got pregnant immediately after a mmc, with no period in between. I must have ovulated around 2 weeks after the miscarriage so that was essentially my lmp. But because we couldn’t officially date it I was under care of EPU at first. I actually thought the first very faint positive test was retained product from the previous pregnancy so had hcg monitoring and scans. That pregnancy is now a miraculous one year old. I didn’t consciously try to get pregnant immediately but equally to have used protection would have felt horrible when I was so desperate for a baby and I do think another pregnancy helped me heal. Of course I was very lucky that it was a viable pregnancy and I was horribly anxious but it was all worth it. Good luck x

@PimlicoMum4 sorry you went through it too but what an incredible story! Thank you for sharing.