Intimacy after miscarriage

[Mum23boys1987]

I feel this could be a topic many dont speak about.
How hard it is to become intimate again for some of us.
I had a mmc at 10 weeks d&c at 10 also ı had been on pelvic rest since 7wks anyway. 2 weeks post op we decided to try with protection as advised by dr (i feel this may have been what triggered me) but i just ended up so upset and in floods of tears my heart felt so heavy the next day not a nice experience. 3 weeks post op and i had my first period and am now moving into a new cycle but am still unable to go there i know mentally its too painful right now my poor dh has been so patient and not pushy but i am wondering when this side of it will all change. Any others had similiar experience?

“…poor dh has been so patient and not pushy but i am wondering when this side of it will all change.”

Your DH is not ‘poor’ in any sense, it’s you that has been through the trauma. Put yourself first and give yourself a chance to heal physically and mentally. Sex can wait. He can wait.

2 weeks post op does not sound very long at all OP

Sorry for your loss. I would wait at least 2 months.

I had a miscarriage with complications and think it was at least 3 or 4 months. I was very anaemic though and had other physical issues as well.

Do you mean 3 to 4 months before you were intimate again?
2 weeks seemed ok at the time as we had been on pelvic rest for 2 month's anyway. I am now 5 weeks post op but still feel no closer to feeling like sex

I can't say I did experience this to be honest, in many ways it felt helpful to be trying again rather than focusing on what we'd lost. Trying to move forwards etc. I imagine it's different for different people. From recollection we started having sex again within a couple of weeks of my D&C so I don't think there is such a thing as 'too early' - depends on the person/couple. I think it's best to just be honest with him. Have you got anyone to talk to re how you're feeling other than DH?