Help advise needed

[GLI2024]

Hi,

I an looking for some advise after feeling so lost and down. We have been TTC for 1 year and 3 months now .. I feel pregnant in Feb this year (due date would have been today so feeling very sad day) this was after about 7 months of trying. We were made up and so excited this would be our first child I am 32.

However at 5 weeks I suffered a natural misscarriage and was deverstated. Fast forward to July this year I feel pregnant again (5 months later). We were over the moon again. I was worried after my last experience but reading all the stats online the chances of a second was going to be unlikely. Fast forward to the beginning of August i started spotting again and lost all my pregnancy symptoms, just like last time. I was then admitted into hospital as the scans showed a possible eptopic pregnancy. I was in hospital for 3 days and was just about to have treatment for removal 😢 when the process started happening naturally and my levels dropped down again just like last time.. the consultant couldn't confirm if this was an eptopic or not as it was impossible to see at this stage.. or was this just another failed pregnancy? Both times around 5 weeks.

The consultant advised me not to go for private testing at this point as its invasive & the chances of 3 misscarriages are very rare..

Fast forward to now and I am terrified at the thought of getting pregnant again. I don't think I could mentally go through another misscarriage. I am not sure what this point of this post is really but I would love to hear some words of hope if others have experienced similar and gone onto to have a healthy pregnancy?

Thank you x

So sorry for your loss. I’m in very similar position, 31, TTC for almost 2 years and all I’ve had to show for it is 2 miscarriages, first at 7 wks, second at 9 wks, both needing multiple hospital visits and surgery. It’s a very hopeless feeling and has stripped me of any positivity about TTC. Add to that I’m surrounded by family & friends similar age pregnant with their 2nd child, safe to say i’m pretty fed up.
My second mc was in the summer and we made the decision to pause TTC until the new year because I’m just expecting to have another mc and can’t bare returning to the hospital yet or a mc falling around Christmas and ruining that.
I hope and pray that it was just ‘bad luck’ twice and there’s no health conditions I’m unaware of causing it, and that 3rd try will work and I wish the same for you 💞

Firstly, I am so, so sorry for your losses. I could have written your post myself. I'm 30 and I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks in Feb and another at 8 weeks end of July. I was terrified of going into another pregnancy knowing another miscarriage was likely. We got some tests done privately and all came back normal. They were all blood tests so not invasive at all. The only testing we didn't have done was genetic testing and were due to get this done in November, but I fell pregnant for a third time before getting the tests done. I won't say it was unplanned because we knew the risks, but I didn't realise I was ovulating (ovulated earlier than I normally do). To say I was terrified was an understatement. My fertility clinic put me on progesterone and aspirin to support the pregnancy. I am now 10 weeks pregnant and have seen the heartbeat 4 times now. All is looking well. It's definitely very scary and I've a long way to go but now I'm wondering if my two miscarriages were just really bad luck?
Hope you get some answers soon and do what's right for you ❤️

I’m so sorry for your losses.

Try getting a referral for a recurrent loss clinic. They will see you after the second loss and run the necessary tests to rule out the more likely issues. If and when you then get pregnant again you’ll be able to get progesterone and/or blood thinners, depending on what they feel would help support a pregnancy.

I had three losses in between my beautiful boys. It was the extra support I got with my fifth (and final) pregnancy that I think made sure we got to take home our littlest.

Wishing you all the best x