Trying again

[Heyitshal]

Hey, just wanting some advice really.

I had a miscarriage at the end of July, hubby and I are trying again now but I still feel so sad. I can’t seem to shake the feeling of sadness, the first time we actively started trying, I cried during and after. And now, another time of us doing the baby dance I still feel so sad afterwards. Do you think this means it’s too soon for me? Or is this to be expected?

Oh I am so sorry for you loss. It reads to me that you are still grieving and you aren’t ready.
you shouldn’t be crying when you have sex.
have you spoken to anyone about how you feel? GP or counselling?
does your husband know you are still struggling?
SANDS is a baby loss charity who may be able to offer you some support?

When my oh said he wanted to try again after a few months after we lost our baby - I froze and it felt wrong. A couple of months later I felt I was ready to try again (after I had counselling).

there is no right or wrong. Some people try again straightaway other people need longer. That’s ok.

please speak to someone about it and get your feelings out.

sending you a hug xxx

So sorry for your loss. You are not alone i lost my baby mmc at 10 weeks i had already been on pelvic rest since 7. 2 weeks after my d&c and we attempted to be intimate obviously with protection as my dr advised but it didnt happen i got so upset during we had to stop we are grieving and have to accept that and allow the process i am now nearly 5 weeks post d&c had my first period but still feel i cant be intimate just yet.

Thank you for your kind words. I'm sorry for your loss too. I hope this is made easier for us both. Accepting that I'm grieving hasn't been easy, I've tried to move on too quick but I'm going to take my time and feel everything.

I saw this when you posted it but didn't have the words to reply. I can't thank you enough. I have started therapy and I already feel much lighter. I'm sorry to hear that you've also felt this pain, I hope everything is good with you now xx

Thank you again for your encouragement and understanding. xx

Thank you so much for this kind update. I’m glad you are starting to feel lighter and that the therapy is starting to help.
we did have another baby - she is a teen now.
Take your time and look after yourself. It’s a hard time, losing your baby may not leave you completely but it can get easier.
Xxx