Miscarriage

[blessedmammy]

I'm utterly heartbroken and just looking for somebody to talk to, unsure why but I don't want to reach out to any of my friends...most of them don't have the desire for children so I don't feel like they will understand.

Today I had a miscarriage to what would have been our 3rd baby. After making the decision to have a 3rd child I was so excited to find out we'd fallen pregnant in the first month. Even though this loss was an early one at 5 weeks +1 day I'd found out very early so felt like I'd been pregnant for ages. I'd imagined who they would be , I'd booked my first midwife appointment , I'd planned how I would announce it to my two other children. This just hurts so much, I've had one previous miscarriage before my second and this one feels even worse. I'm laid here wondering how I get up in the morning and do the school run , carry on with the Halloween activities we have booked at the weekend when all I want to do is hide in my room and not come back out. I want a 3rd child so bad but I'm now so scared to try again incase I keep having miscarriages my heart cannot take it. Like I said I really don't know the meaning to this post I just needed to say it out loud because I'm drowning at the moment 💔

I am so sorry for your loss, it's never easy.

But remember you've got two wonderful children already who need you, as much as you'd like to give them another sibling, they will know no difference until you tell them otherwise. Hug your babies closer tonight x

I'm so sorry that this has happened. It's natural for you to feel this way, and there's something so cruel about having to put on an act because you have two children to look after.
But I think (for me certainly) that responsibility of my existing child helped me hugely.
Perhaps you can lean on your partner if possible to pick up some of these tasks over the next few days/weeks to give yourself some breathing space and allow yourself some time to process this. It's only happened today after all- so new.
Bless you - big hugs. Just horrible x

Acknowledge your feelings. It's desperately sad. Allow yourself to feel hurt and don't expect it to disappear. And then while holding that hurt, carry on with your children because it will hurt more to look back and feel like you weren't there for them. It's a balancing act of sadness x

So sorry to hear of your loss. I started to miscarry on Monday night, we were almost 6 weeks. It was our first month TTC first baby and we were both so over the moon when all of the tests were positive. I’m heartbroken and have cried on and off every day. All I can do is hope it was a glitch and the next time we’re successful. It’s hard not to worry that we are going to have difficulties or recurrent miscarriages. Sending love x