Not feeling myself after miscarriage

[palmtreessunshine]

Hi all

this isn’t my first loss- I’ve had 7, massively spaced apart, but I’ve just had recently 2 back to back- literally weeks apart. The first I seemed to bounce back energy and mood wise quite quickly. The second feels like it’s really taken a toll on me physically. The actual scanning process to confirm was also very traumatic without going into too much detail. I’m lucky because I have 3 healthy children, but I’m feeling down because I have very little energy, patience, and my moods are all over the place. I’d love to know how others have recovered who’ve been in similar circumstances and if I’m alone in this. I really want my energy back.

I’m so sorry for your losses.

I had three quite close together and it was the collective impact that knocked me sideways. Each time I’d got my head above water only to be ducked under again, if that makes sense. I basically hadn’t had time to process the event and grief.

This can be compounded if the loss is also complicated or traumatic, as it sounds like the second was.

I found therapy super helpful. At one point I felt like I’d been hollowed out inside, and it helped me get back to normal.

Hi there.
very similar situation here too.

There were two parts to it for me.

1. the physical. The pain was severe so I of course used codeine based analgesia plus needed gas and air and morphine. The hang over effects were longer lasting than I anticipated so had to wait that out feeling crappy. The blood loss was torrential so I (probably… no one bothered to check) was anaemic so I took it upon myself to take multivits with iron supplements. I stuck these out for 6 months. The symptoms of anaemia and iron deficiency should not be dismissed as they are truly truly debilitating and are very physically present. I also felt that hormones may have had some impact on my physical symptoms too.

Emotionally after multiple miscarriages the final one was an accumulation of feelings brought to a head in a tsunami.
Along side the decision to stop trying for a child was a lot.
I never spoke to a soul. I wish I had done.

All the very best OP, I get you, sadly all I can do is agree that this situation does somehow take you away to the unusual. Everyone copes in their own way to get through it. Xx