Delayed MC grief ?

[RevelryMum]

I had a MC almost 3 years ago it was my first pregnancy and I lost baby at 7 weeks so quiet early . I was obviously upset but got on with it maybe a little too well I even got up and went to work the next day (how or why I don't know) I never really delt with it . I think thats just kind of how I cope with loss and get through it (I've lost a lot of family over the years so grief is no new concept to me) however I now have my rainbow baby she is 17 weeks and everything I ever prayed for but recently the last 2-3 weeks I'm very teary and upset thinking about my baby I lost , I can't explain it it's like the grief just caught up with me even though I know if I hadn't lost that baby I wouldn't now have my beautiful DD who I can't imagine life without. I've never really spoken about it never even told my mum I suffered a MC only one or two ppl knew at the time and I almost feel guilty now like that baby wasn't acknowledged.

Some one posted a similar issue question yesterday. It was wave of light night last week and there has been things in the news about baby loss certificates which I think is making people think about lost babies. It also isn’t unusual for having a baby to bring up ‘what if’ thoughts.

As you have had a baby recently you can be refered to maternal mental health support by your GP if you think it would be helpful.

I think it's because you look at your little one and your mind wonders what your first child would have been like. Your overwhelming love for your beautiful daughter makes you think about what went before and when your heart us open to such love it us open to pain too. I think we all have these moments about all sorts of things, sort of like the reason we cry at weddings, we are happy but in our happiness we feel the sadness of life moving on and times past. Give in to some tears if you feel sad, it just means you are are being a human and it is natural to feel sad about sad events from the past even if the future is happier x

Can completely relate. I think in the immediate aftermath I was so disappointed that my focus was on getting pregnant again.
Quite a while afterwards I heard of an acquaintance having a miscarriage and it upset me more than I would have expected.