Breast milk after loss

[User202417]

I lost my baby at 12 weeks but my pregnancy was at 12.5 and I had my baby in hospital at 13.1 weeks. I noticed some breast milk around two weeks after horrified and upset I thought it will stop its fine but Iam now 4 weeks post loss and I should be 17 weeks pregnant and my boobs are really larger and have breast milk going to call midwife in morning as they offer advice and support after baby loss felling so confused and upset is this normal to have this milk production continue

Hi OP, so sorry for your loss. Im sorry the milk is happening too, its very distressing..I lost my boy at 36 weeks and the hospital gave me the tablet to stop my milk but it came in anyway, I took another one and it stopped but I continued to leak very small amounts for about 3 months. They said if your body had already produced some it needs to come out, they also said the hormones don’t settle for a while and thats why it can leak out sometime afterwards too. Look after yourself, hope you’re able to get some rest xxx

Thank you for leaving this message and sharing your story it means a lot to me. Iam so sorry for the loss of your baby I hope your keeping ok ❤️ thank you for this advice too I will speak with the local midwives today. Xxxx

My real ds2 was stillborn at 36weeks (no heartbeat confirmed at 35+2 (I wanted a vbac and my dr supported me with it)).

I was offered a tablet to stop the milk from coming. But I declined it, as I felt like it was good for my grieving process.
It took about two months for it to to stop. Then I waited another month and a bit for my period to return. But I always credit my period returning to making an gp appointment and going there for it restart.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

sorry new to mumsnet what does My real mean? I know what DS2 means just unsure of what you mean by my real all new to shortened terms . Sorry for your loss aswell sorry anyone has to go through the loss of their baby very cruel thing to experience

I typically do not include my stillborn son when asked how many children I have. However, when I feel comfortable discussing him, I refer to him as my "real ds2". I’m not sure where I picked that up, but I now have two living younger brothers for him, whom I refer to as ds2 and ds3.

Thanks for sharing that with me because it’s not easy to talk about or to share and am glad you feel comfortable on this thread to share that. We all have our ways and words that we are comfortable with and bring us comfort in this loss and he is your baby your real baby 🩵 and always will be. Iam so so sorry for everything you have been through xxx

Oh OP I've no advice but I'm so very sorry for your loss. I came across something when I had my loss which warmed my heart I chose to believe it maybe for the comfort but it was that babies soul goes back up to heaven (or wherever) waiting to be born and when you have your rainbow baby it's the same little soul and it gave me great comfort . xxx

@RevelryMum Iam so sorry for your loss it’s so sad that is beautiful I haven’t heard that before you just think on them as the purest little soul ever aren’t they. I will share a little poem I seen and it’s brought me so much comfort. Xxxx

Little poem that’s helped me

@User202417 that's beautiful xxx here's one more that I love

That’s just made me cry, a year ago yesterday I found out I was pregnant and today I sit in bed wishing more than anything my baby was snuggled here with me, as you will feel too. It’s so heartbreaking xxx

@RevelryMum i love that it’s a hard time and it’s important to find comfort in words and places whatever it may be I have been searching and searching poems and sayings and for peoples experience xxx

@OPGsMummy absolutely Iam still counting my weeks and grieving so much for the future I had pictured in my head with all my children with me. How you feel is valid and it’s real you will carry that grief forever but there can’t be grief without love where there is grief there is love love has existed ❤️ ❤️ dates are so hard so hard you imagine that full year after you have them it plays in our minds from the minute we find out we are having a baby really thinking and praying for you all xxxxx

@OPGsMummy @RevelryMum @Shushquite is the loss of your wee babies quite recent aswell Iam 4 weeks after losing my baby xx

@User202417 no I lost mine 3 years ago and have had my rainbow baby I can't explain it though since having my DD I'm thinking more and more about the baby I lost , I never really delt with it at the time so I think it's just catching up with me . Have you thought about maybe planting a little tree or similar in their memory?

2015 was the year my heart broke. At the same, the happiest time.

It’s so sad I don’t think no matter how much times days weeks months years pass you will always remember them and hundred percent 2024 had been the happiest I thought we would have another little baby next year and the saddest year because god had different plans. Can be hard to accept can’t it that the plan is out of our control. You just see a future ahead of so many plans and things when you find out.

when I posted this thread the other night I was so scared nervous and lonely incase people judged me or my situation or feelings but this is lovely to get chatting to other mummy’s going through loss with no judgement xxxx