Two missed miscarriages in a row

[Becca123456]

Hi I am just looking for some advice. I have had to mmc this year one found at my 12 week scan in March-blighted ovum requiring two D&C procedures due to ‘retained tissue’ and I treated with antibiotics. The second recently this month at an early scan around 9 weeks baby measured 7 weeks. I had medical management for this and I am due to take a test on Sunday after three week wait following miscarriage.

I am just wondering if anyone can offer any advice regarding progesterone and aspirin or anything else they may have done to help? I was started on progesterone/cyclogest a week before my second miscarriage was commenced due to bleeding but seems the baby’s heart stopped at the time of starting. I am due my smear so want to have that done 12 weeks postnatal. Me and my partner are currently taking proceive to maintain vitamins. I have an 8 year old conceived naturally. Just wondering if anyone can offer any advice? As I don’t meet the criteria for referral, the GP has advised he will run some blood tests but could just be ‘bad luck’. I just want to try and do everything I possibly can to better my chances.

thank you for any help/advice anyone can offer. X

I'm so sorry for your losses. I'm afraid I don't have any advice as such, I've had 3 MMCs in a row but all my tests I've had done under the recurrent miscarriage clinic have come back normal so apparently for me progesterone, aspirin, heparin etc wouldn't have made a difference. I know the third was a chromosomal abnormality as tissue was sent off for testing after my third loss. If the GP is offering bloods I'd definitely go for them, it's good to rule stuff out even if nothing comes back as the reason for your losses. Are you taking folic acid too?x

I’m so sorry for your losses, thank you for sharing. ❤️ If you don’t mind me asking did you have any surgical intervention? (Sorry I know it’s personal) I am worried incase I have developed scar tissue from the two D&C and the infection. I did have early scans with my second and I am presuming they would have noticed this on the transvaginal ultrasound if this was the case. My mind is on overtime/drive. Yes I will go for the blood tests etc and I think he has referred me for a scan to check uterus etc. yes I am taking folic acid I haven’t stopped taking that since my first miscarriage. I feel like any questions I asked with the hospital were dismissed as they advised it is more common that what people realised. It just an awful place to be. Are you being supported by the recurrent pregnancy clinic going forward? Xx

@Becca123456 yep I had surgical management with all 3 and on later scans they've said everything looks good, so you'd definitely hope that they'd mention it they saw something wrong. I'm sorry you felt dismissed - nothing worse when you're hurting so badly. Just because something is common doesn't mean it shouldn't be taken seriously, cancer impacts 1 in 3 people now but you'd hope that is always taken seriously and people aren't dismissed!!
Yeah - I've been under their care, I've also got a referral to the fertility clinic as it takes us on average a year to get pregnant each time (they've termed it "sub fertility"). My partner has a test tomorrow then we wait for an appointment letter for that. It's good your doctor is getting bloods and a scan - the more knowledge the better iny opinion. How are you holding up emotionally? It can be a rough ride xx

Yes I thought if there was any issues surely they would mention it, my mind is just playing tricks second guessing and over thinking everything. I know it’s so difficult and such a lonely place, I think the hospital must just see it so often that it becomes the normal but that certainly doesn't help in the moment. Wishing you all the best with everything I have everything crossed for you both. I hope all goes well with your partners tests too. I’m sure you’re in the best hands. Look after each other ❤️ Emotionally- if I’m honest I’m finding it really hard one minute I feel hopefully then the next like the world is falling apart. Feel like everyone around me is pregnant and i feel jealous, then feel guilty for feeling that way. Just a rollercoaster of emotions which I’m know you can relate too. I hope you are okay too! Xx

I’m so sorry for your losses, sadly can relate having 2 myself, 1st was also a blighted ovum, failed medical management then surgery, 2nd mc I ended up having a tiny bit of retained tissue so surgery again after another lot of failed medical management. The 2nd mc was in June and I immediately just wanted to get pregnant again but now I just can’t face a visit to the hospital anytime soon as sick of seeing the place, so having a break until after Christmas I think. 10% of me thinks it’ll be 3rd time lucky but 90% is just expecting another mc. I’ve had bloods done with my GP but not expecting anything to come of that, just wanted to feel I was doing something. Read about low dose aspirin and very tempted to give that a go when I (hopefully) become pregnant again.
Ultimately we just have to keep plodding on and keep some hope, take care and I wish you all the best xx

I’m sorry for your losses, it’s just such an awful thing anyone has to go through. Your story sounds quite similar to mine, thank you for sharing. Yes I have said the same a break until after christmas, last time I wanted to get pregnant quickly after my first mc but again sadly the same outcome. I feel like mentally it is taking its toll more than physically. I feel the same with third time lucky, its the hope that we need to get us through I suppose. Yes I have read a lot about low does aspirin but unsure when it’s best to start as there is conflicting stories of taking before conception and when pregnant. It’s hard because it’s like being in the dark trying to find answers yourself. Look after yourself I wish you all the best in your journey ❤️ xx