Hi Everyone,
Long time lurker here, I think I have read every Mumsnet thread on recurrent miscarriage over the last year, and finally plucked up the courage to start my own thread. Apologiels for the long post, but here goes:
Started TTC our first in Dec 2022, got 1st positive pregnancy test in July 23, but was spotting from the off, actually thought i was going to start my period and only tested as I have severe acne and all of a sudden my skin cleared up (i eould learn in the next year that my acne clears up each time i am pregnant) My husband and i were so happy and totally oblivious to the fact that the spotting was getting worse, i miscarried at 6 weeks exactly. The miscarriage started when i was at work and just made it home and passed everything on the loo.
We were devastated but thought its just one of those things, we cried but picked ouraelves up and thought okay it can't happen again. I felt like i had a huge hole inside me and i just wanted to fill it up by getting pregnant again as soon as possible and we did again straight away in August 23. But it fid happen again, the embryo stopped growing just after 5.5 weeks and the spotting started and the EPU diagnosed a missed miacarriage. I opted for medical management and passed the sac late that night. I have never experienced such excrutiating pain.
At this point i was just in despair, what do we do, where do we go from here. The NHS wouldn't do anything till 3 miscarriages but did i really want to try again without having some help and support? So we spoke to a private consultant who thinks i may have PCOS(no cysts on ovaries, but hormonal imbalance) as i have always struggled with bad skin, slight more hair on face etc but i do have periods within 35 days and i do ovulate. She prescribed Inofolic Alpha, high dose folic acid, and from the next positive test progesterone from after ovulation and aspirin from BFP.
We didnt try till December 2023 and we got another positive, we startes the medication, and EPU booked me in for early scans from 6 weeks, this time we saw a heartbeat, we thought we were out of the wooda we were elated, we didnt take much notice that the growth seemed to be abit behind. We had another scan at 11 weeks in Jan 2024, i had started spotting abit by then, at the scan they couldn't see anything, the embryo had stopped growing, most likely straight after the 1st scan, and my body had started to absorb the embryo. It was another missed miscarriage, i opted for medical management again, this time it didnt work and there was products still retained. It took until the end of Feb 24. We saw the private consultant again and she prescribed us with Infolic Alpha and high dose folic acid again and from the next BFP, progesterone, aspirin, prednisolone, and clexane. As well as doxycycline.
We started TTC again from May 24, and it didn' happen, we didnt conceive straight away. We thought it must be the antibiotics, they must have worked. We didn't get a positive test until July 24, but that turned negative within 3 days, it was a chemical pregnancy. We have been trying for 4 months and it seems we have gone the other way, from conceive 3 times in 6 months to nothing now.
I have been referred to our local recurrent miscarriage clinic but the appointment has been cancelled twice, but we have the results of the initial tests and scans and they didn't reveal anything. We haven't had a chance to try the medication the private consultant has given as we haven't got pregnant since.
I just need some kind words and advice I guess, all this is killing me, on the outside i am smiling, carrying on with life but inside it is crushing me. My husband is amazing but he has eternal hope and would be happy just to wait and truly believes it will happen one day. But i can't see the wood for the trees, i just turned 35 and he is 42 so i feel like time isn't on our side either. What else can i try or do, i had started taking all the vits and supplements from 'It starts with the egg' from Jan 24. I also tried soy isoflavones in Aug 24, but they delayed my ovulation to CD28 and I am a late ovulator as it is, between CD21 and CD24, however since taking them my severe acne is clear and tht only happens if i am on birth control or pregnant.
Any advice or kind words please?