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Still question my miscarriage

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username59582 · 31/08/2024 19:55

I know I am talking nonsense and no one on here nor myself will ever know. I had a miscarriage 6 months ago.

It's started with very light bleeding that the EPU said I could have an early scan for. The scan confirmed pregnancy but said I was measuring abit small. I wasn't concerned at the time as my cycles were long so I explained I did think I probably ovulated later in my cycle. They suggested I return two weeks later. On that scan despite the foetus growing they said it was not enough and the pregnancy was not viable.
I was offered another scan 10 days later where they confirmed the pregnancy was not viable.

I wasn't given much information really as to why and to be honest I didn't ask. I didn't even ask if they could detect a heartbeat. I think I could have been in shock maybe.

The following week I went in for medical management and miscarried in the hospital. I didn't expect to see much maybe blood clots but from the comments of it being an unviable pregnancy and not growing enough I was shocked to see a foetus with clear tiny feet/arms. Having looked at images online I would say 10/11 weeks. Even then I did not question/say or ask the midwife's anything. Also they were different from the ones who had done my scan.

The last few months I have for some reason started to feel like they were wrong. I know I talking rubbish but I have a photo of the foetus and I feel like it looked the correct size for where I probably was in my cycle. I often wonder if they didn't take onboard my long cycles.

Is this just some kind of denial? Has anyone else ever felt like that. I often wish I had waited to miscarry naturally then I would know for definite.

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Sailawaygirl · 31/08/2024 20:24

To add it was at a private scan ( but I felt that I had lost pregnacy and it was a weekend) that I found out that there was no heart beat with me. I could see it on the screen the lovely lady explained what she could see and what it ment. When I went to the epu on the Monday when it opened they scanned me and confirmed again but the screen was turned so I didn't get to see the images. I thought at the time that if I had just gone to epu and not seen the images I would have found it harder to process everything. Although it was so sad seeing the big screen amd no heart beat it helped cause I could see there was no heart beat before sonographer said anything.
I'm sure for many women it's too painful to see the images but I'm one of those people who like to know details and given that you were checking what passed I guess you are too. Sorry if this is TMI but I missed collecting the first couple of things that I passed with medical management because it was the middle of the night and I was soo dossed up on pain meds but I did regret this for a bit. So I can't coment on what it looked like although I did read lots of accounts and they said similar to you.
Again I'm sorry. Mumsnet and some of the Facebook groups were really helpful to me as well.

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