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My twin had a miscarriage now I'm pregnant.

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ellyht · 29/08/2024 16:59

My identical twin sister had a miscarriage a few months ago at around 12 weeks. Her and her husband had been trying for a few months and we were all so excited and completely heartbroken for her. We have always been very close however she lives on the other side of the world so supporting her in this time was really challenging on all of us, especially her. However we spoke a lot over text and she was very open with me about how she was feeling. She recently came back to visit which was really nice and we were able to have some deep talks about what had happened.

She went back last week and last night I found out I was pregnant, I was not expecting it at all but me and my husband were hoping to start trying next year. If it wasn't for my sister I would be over the moon but I don't know how to feel and I don't want this news to set her back. She has expressed she's been finding it hard seeing people's baby announcements online, I'm hoping this will be different for her. I feel very lost and I'm not really sure what to do. I think I want to talk to her before anyone else but it would have to be over video call and I don't know how to say it. Any advice would be really appreciated.

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nutroastie · 29/08/2024 17:01

talk to your mum

OneDayHope · 02/09/2024 21:48

Sorry to hear of your sister’s loss, you must be very torn with your emotions. I don’t understand a twin relationship, I don’t actually have any siblings! So the closest relationship is my best friend. I’ve now suffered 2 mc and if she was to tell me she was pregnant, my preference would initially be a message from her, this would allow me to process the news with no immediate need for a response. You can say in the message that once she’s ready you can have a call about it but there’s no pressure given you understand it may be hard for her x

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