This contains information that may be upsetting to mothers who have experienced a miscarriage so please don't read if this might upset you. Thank you. I had a miscarriage and don't know how to apologise to neighbours

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I had woken up to severe cramping pain and rushed to the bathroom, it progressively got worse as the hours passed. My partner was there for me with hot water bottles, drinks, painkillers and everything I needed. I had been warned by nurses that something like this may happen due to certain medical conditions. I was terrified this would happen but now I'm worried that I've upset neighbours. This happened at around 1-6 am and continued with less pain afterwards. I was in the worst pain I have ever felt, I couldn't speak and struggled to walk. I was quite loud due to the pain and as it got worse I had become louder, I can't remember much but I think I had shouted for my husband to call and ambulance and there had been more noise again after. It had stopped eventually as our baby girl had passed, I am absolutely heartbroken and seeing her was even worse. I want to apologise but I'm unable to even leave my bed, I feel sick and I'm still struggling to walk. I don't feel like this is a situation where I must apologise but It was late at night. Do I give it time then apologise? What would I even say?

Thank you, sorry for the lengthy and badly worded post. I could maybe do with some advice on how to cope with this loss too.

You poor thing OP. Don't worry about the neighbours at all. If you have their number you could send a quick message saying you were taken ill in the night but are now OK (if you think they'll have been worried about what was happening). But that's very optional. Just focus on yourself and your own recovery now.

Oh sweetheart - so sorry for your loss. It's heartbreaking. Your neighbours are the least of your worries right now. Take your time to grieve.

So so sorry for your loss ( and pain).
Sending healing thoughts.
Perhaps your husband could put a note through your neighbours door . I had a miscarriage and Ectopic years ago.
My daughters too.
Here where l live is the miscarriage association.
Brilliant help.
Sending love.

https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw8rW2BhAgEiwAoRO5rATsVq2kg1EL3vFQyzFzMj4ugL1YP4blbFu3_LVOA7OigY7oR_q9SxoCxwMQAvD_BwE

The Miscarriage Association was very helpful to me. They used to have a 'Forget me Not" field on their site where you could post a little story or poem. Mine is still there 13yrs on. And talking about it helps, maybe a little memory box with scan photos if you have them.

First of all, I'm really sorry about your miscarriage.

You don't need to say anything to your neighbours at all. If they heard anything, they will likely have realised that any noise was because you were in pain and they will fully appreciate that the cause of that is none of their business. They're more likely to have been concerned for you, rather than disturbed by the noise - if they see you or your partner in the next couple of days, and they know you well enough to chat to, I think it's possible that they might say 'I don't want to be nosy, but just wanted to check everything's OK with you not' or something like that, in which case you can say 'We did have a really difficult night with a medical emergency, but recovering now, thank you'. You don't need to tell them that you suffered a miscarriage (although you obviously can tell them if you want to). And I wouldn't say anything proactively.

Nothing to apologise for OP. You had a medical emergency and they will have seen the ambulance and known something was up. It’s not like you and DP are yelling at each other through the night, every night.
Focus on your recovery.

Sorry for your loss. Please really don’t worry at all, likely they didn’t even hear, and even if they did, it doesn’t matter. Focus on your recovery. Tommys website is good for advice, and you could ask if your hospital has bereavement midwives for support?