Help/advice after late miscarriage

[Hopeafterloss]

Hi all.
On Friday 9th Aug, me and my partner sadly lost our baby - I was 14/5 weeks pregnant.
This is now our second miscarriage, having lost another baby at 7 weeks two years ago.
Since the most recent miscarriage, I have been driving myself crazy researching why this could have happened....twice! I've read that late miscarriages are rare (approx 1-2% of all miscarriages) and they are often to do with the mother/placenta, rather than the baby itself? Has anyone else been in this situation before and after the tests carried out, was anything conclusive found?

I am punishing myself right now and we would like to try again, but I'm terrified this will happen again.
Is there something I can do to help prevent this next time? I've read aspirin and progesterone has helped, but wondered whether anyone can vouch for this, or has any other advice? I'm currently taking folic, with better quality pregnancy vitamins on the way.

I think the only thing that can give me any sort of comfort right now is knowing that other people have gone on to have a successful pregnancy after a late miscarriage.

I'm so sorry that we're talking on this page, and sending a big hug to you all. X

Hello!

I am so so sorry for your two losses and I know exactly how you feel. Just last year I was exactly where you are and I just want you to have hope because eventually, it did work out for me.

My first pregnancy ended at 6 weeks with no explanation. I got pregnant immediately after and everything seemed to go well until my 12 week scan, where they found a larger than normal nuchal fold. I was due to have a diagnostic test but at 14 weeks I found out that our baby had also passed away. Following this, I found out our baby had turners syndrome. I went onto have another unsuccessful pregnancy. I was in your same spot researching and wondering if I would ever have children. I read online about certain supplements and medications.

Before TTC again, I took Coq10, high dose vitamin D and Folic acid. My partner also took coq10 and zinc. I fell pregnant again and decided to take low dose aspirin. (Midwife told me this wouldn’t cause the baby any harm but she could not recommend herself as there has been no scientific research conducted) but I had read time and time again that it helped so many get their rainbow baby and like you, I was willing to try anything.

Whilst the anxiety was there at every scan, my beautiful baby girl was born in February this year. I know that right now you feel this will never end, but it is more likely than not that you will eventually get your little one.

When your little one passed, we’re you able to get their remains tested? This might give you some insight into what may have gone wrong. It was helpful for me to know that my baby had a chromosomal abnormality and it wasn’t to do with me. I think our first thought is to blame ourselves when it’s not our fault! Please remember that nothing you did caused it.

Now that you have had a late miscarriage, just know that you are eligible to be referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinics as if you are willing to wait to TTC again they will offer you some tests. If you want to speak to me or ask any questions don’t hesitate to private message me!