SIL miscarried and I'm pregnant

[MummyToBe2022]

I'm currently 12 weeks pregnant and just found out my SIL miscarried a couple of weeks ago.
We have some events coming up that we will both be attending but I don't know how to be around her.
The whole family knows about my pregnancy and I've been asked to be sensitive about the situation around her.

Which I totally will be as I feel so much for her
This is my 3rd pregnancy but would of been her second.

Should I keep my distance as it's still raw or should I make the effort to talk. I really don't want to do the wrong thing to upset her.

Hi,

Firstly, it's so kind your thinking of your SIL and don't want to upset her.

I had a MMC while my best friend was also pregnant at a similar stage - I also had to attend various events with her.

To tell you the truth, I hated it!! Seeing her was like a stab in the heart and I felt awful for feeling that way BUT I also knew there was nothing she could do about it. I noticed she would make an effort to talk to me about other things and change the subject when other people brought up her pregnancy in front of me - which I appreciated.

It all depends on how close you are to your SIL, but maybe a message to offer your sympathy with something along the lines of 'I'm here to talk if you want but also totally understand that you might want some space'. Then she'll know you care and aren't avoiding the subject.

Thank you for replying

I will message her as you suggested. Hopefully it will break the ice a little

I'm sorry for you having to suffer a loss too 😔