Dealing with miscarriage alone without services

[ttcat43]

Has anyone allowed their miscarriage to happen without hospital/medical intervention?
I am 8 weeks. I had a scan at 7 weeks and was told baby was measuring 2.4mm with heartbeat but to expect MC. I’m now 8.5 and started losing brown stringy discharge this morning. Exactly the same as I started with my miscarriage last year at 9 weeks.
I haven’t engaged with nhs services. I’ve been too scared. Scan was a private one.
in really don’t want to have to go through the process of having a scan to confirm it’s gone. Can I just wait this out and miscarriage naturally? When I first found out I was pregnant I decided I couldn’t do this miscarrying process again (now age 44) so I contacted msi online and they sent me abortion pills. My OH pleased with me to wait it out and see what happens.. which I agreed to.. and, as I expected, it’s not continued. So, can I just take the pills and be done without this going through nhs?

I had a missed miscarriage diagnosed at my first NHS scan at 12 weeks. The embryo was measuring about 5.5 weeks, and I reckoned I was 9 weeks pregnant (I have PCOS, so irregular cycles and there was date uncertainty).

After the sonographer told me there was no heartbeat, I spoke with a gynaecologist from the hospital about options - surgical, medical (pills) or wait and see. Went with wait and see, and the miscarriage sorted itself out over the next week or two. The EPAU did call me up after 2 weeks to check everything was resolved, I didn't have any mental health issues, and was getting negative pregnancy tests.

The point of this long essay about me is, that even engaging with the NHS, they didn't do much. If you think your body is sorting itself out, you don't need to do anything at all. You don't need pills.

You can always seek support and advice later - and should if your bleeding or pain is too bad, or you don't get a negative pregnancy test in time. If you need advice from someone qualified, and dont want to use the NHS (I'm just a random on the Internet!) both the miscarriage association Tommy's have helplines.

https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/
https://www.tommys.org/

Take care of yourself.

So sorry you’re going through this. I totally understand you preferring not to go to the hospital, as much as staff can be lovely I still find the environment cold, which is tough at a time you’re already in a low place. Having said that I think going to the hospital is so important for your health, I’ve had 2 mc now, first I thought everything had passed but months later turned out it had not and I was at risk of infection so needed surgery to remove ‘remaining products’. 2nd mc a scan showed a small piece of retained tissue or potential polyp so I had surgery to remove that and they sent it off for biopsy to be sure. So with both mc it was very beneficial that I went to the hospital, that being said that’s only my personal experience and you don’t need to rush into a decision, take care of yourself and if you feel at all unwell contact them.
I wish you the best moving forward x

Different perspectives for me to consider but, both just the kindest messages with true and good intention.. thank you both. I’ve been fine until now, your kindness has made me teary!
OH wants me to go and have another scan to be sure.. his hope is heartbreaking 😔

I am so sorry you are going through this @ttcat43 obviously it’s your choice but if it was me I would contact the EPU. I really don’t rate private places very much - I would go to the EPU for peace of mind. I know it’s horrible, that place seems like my second home recently & last time I went in just for a blood test it brought memories back & I just wanted to burst into tears. But I know that they have thoroughly checked everything for me each time I’ve been

So sorry. I would go to the epu just in case to make sure everything has gone as retained things can cause infection.

Hey @ttcat43 so sorry you are going through this. I’m going through similar, can’t have an epu scan till Monday. I’d maybe consider getting in touch with them so you’re known if you need them if that makes sense? Ultimately, take care of yourself and try and do what you feel is right for you