Trouble getting pregnant after two d&c

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Hi everyone. Wondering if anyone has any thoughts on my situation or went through similar. I have two children both of which I got pregnant first month of trying. I then got pregnant in October 2023 again first month trying. Unfortunately that ended in a MMC and I had a d&c in Jan 2024 for that. After that I had issues with bleeding and hcg not falling and went through 8 weeks of hell trying to get my doctor to listen to me that soemthing was wrong- there was I had retained products and then needed a repeat d&c in March 2024. Since then I have had 5 failed cycles, my second cycle after the second d&c I had a chemical pregnancy ( was almost worse than the original miscarriage and I thought finally this is all over with but unfortunately not). I am just so stressed out about this all. Like 5 months of with no luck is very unusual for me giving my past history of getting pregnant very easily. My cycles are regular and I know I am ovulating, periods aren’t light or anything since the d&c and have been normal. I have just lost all hope at this stage and don’t know what to do. I saw my doctor again recently and they said just wait another three months. Feel like they will keep telling me this over and over. Had enough of it all 😔. 2024 has been the worst year.

SSS1809 firstly, sorry you have been through this experience. MMCs are just awful. I had one myself in the Autumn. From the start date of my prior period to the day my cyclecrestarted after everything, it was almost 5 months. 5 months of time I wont get back and all because the NHS dont scan until 12 weeks! I was a little over 12 weeks at my scan and the embryo was only 6 so, thanks to their scan policy, I had carried the non viable pregnancy for over six weeks. Then, of course, there was the week waiting for the confirmation scan (which I also find ridiculous tbh, since it was over 13 weeks since my last period started). Then there was the wait for the D&C etc, etc.
When we started trying again, it took 5 months to get a positive and then, like yours it turned out to be a Chemical. So I can absolutely empathise with you.
The only thing I can really say is that while you have been fortunate to conceive quickly in the past, keep in mind that there is generally around a 20% chance of conception each month and it is a bit like a lucky dip! I read somewhere that, on average, a woman only produces an egg good enough to be fertilised and make a decent embryo about onde every three months and I guess we only have to look at how IVF embryos are graded and considered suitable or otherwise to put back, to realise that it is not as easy as we would like.
I would say relax and just wait until your next lucky month but I know that is really hard, I find it a nightmare myself!
I hope both of us have good luck soon.

Thansk for your message. I was exact same went for 12 weeks scan and baby had stopped at 6 weeks and then had dreaded week wait for a second scan to confirm. Yes I wish you luck also. So cruel having chemical after it I found it harder than the original miscarriage x

I agree, I had thought I would feel really anxious next pregnancy but I didnt really, I actually felt quite hopeful. Not sure how I will when it happens next time x